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Kids These Days Are Not Safe Anywhere, Here Is What You Can Do

 

It really makes me worried as a mother of two to read about the various incidents happening around with children. Earlier, we were allowed to play outside in the streets or in the parks all alone or with friends till very late in the evening. But now, we are too scared to let our children go alone anywhere. It’s sad and terrifying that incidents of rape with small kids are happening in school. Even schools are not a safe place for children these days.

Two years back, when we were on a house hunt, our most important criteria was to have our house which should be nearer to the school of our kids. When we shifted in the new locality, we had a sigh of relief that at last our kids’ school was at a walking distance from our house. I could manage to pick and drop my kids to their school by myself. Though, it is not easy these days to have a house which can be nearer to school, but if we can have then it is really a blessing. Sadly, even then we cannot ensure the safety of our kids fully with sad incidents happening in the school itself.

Here are a few tips to ensure the safety of our kids:

  1. Be open and frank with the child.

We should remain open and frank with our children. Children should feel free to come and tell us about anything without any kind of fear. They should feel free to come to us and tell us about anything and everything that they like. We should have an unbiased and encouraging atmosphere at home where kids find themselves comfortable to express themselves.

2. Educating a child about their own safety.

We must educate our children to be very careful and cautious. We must tell them that they should not talk to any strangers or get lured away by anyone. They should try to be with their friends and not wander away on their own. They should inform the teacher if they come across somebody they feel scared of.

3.The good touch and the bad touch

A very important thing for a child is to understand the difference between the good and the bad touch. They should learn about their private parts and should not expose them to anyone. If someone tries to approach them in indecent way, they should immediately inform their parents.

4. Having daily conversations

One more important thing is to have daily conversations with kids. Spend time with your kids as soon as they come from their school and let them tell you about their day at school. Listen to them patiently even if they talk about very little and unimportant things. It helps in building trust and the child feels important in front of you. That half an hour or one hour after school is very important for daily conversations as they are too excited to tell you about everything that happened in school.

5. Never leave your child unguarded or unattended

This is extremely important. These days, we cannot trust anyone. Kids are not safe at any place. Try to be with the kids as much as you can both physically and mentally. Leaving the child unattended or unguarded even for a minute is not good.

6. Observe the child

Children have terrible mood swings. But even then we should not dismiss any little change in their behaviour or let it go unnoticed. We must keep asking and enquiring the child about what bothers them or makes them uncomfortable.

We must also teach our kids to raise an alarm and not suppress themselves due to any kind of fear.

It is not possible to be with the kids all the times but it is possible to be there for them always. Our kids are the centre of our universe, we must do our best to ensure their safety and security in the best possible means.

This blog was published on mycity4kids: https://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/my-kids-my-wings/article/kids-these-days-are-not-safe-anywhere-here-is-what-you-can-do

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Raise Independent Kids with These 5 Simple Tips

Our children are handed to us as tiny little cute bundles looking so innocent and delicate. We love to do everything for them and become so busy with them that we just don’t know when the time flies by and our kids start growing up. Our love of doing everything for them becomes a habit both for us and for our kids.

When the kids grow up, they often refuse to do the things on their own which they are capable of doing. It is important to raise them in a way where they become self-sufficient and self-reliant. It is important for us to understand that one day, our little nestlings will be leaving our nest to fly in the sky.

It requires a lot of patience, love and understanding to raise independent kids. They will throw tantrums, there will be power struggles, a lot of mess but in the end it’s all worth it.

So, how can we do it?

Here are five simple steps to make them independent:

1.    Let them fail and learn

Let the children try to do their things on their own. They will stumble, they will fall. They might do it all wrong but it’s okay. We, mothers, often jump up when our kids are making a mistake while doing something on their own. It’s okay. Let them. Hold yourself back. For example, while getting water for themselves, they might spill it. The spilled water can be mopped but once you stop them, chances are they will never try it again.

2.    Don’t let them get disheartened

Even if they are unable to do something on their own, it’s okay. Appreciate their efforts and encourage them to do it again. Don’t point out that they could not do it instead highlight the fact that they tried.

3.    Help them when they face a problem

When they get stuck in the middle of the task they were doing, help them. Once, twice may be many times. But limit yourself till the point where they are facing problem. Once their problem is resolved, let them do it themselves.

4.    Make things simplified

If we want our kids to learn to be independent, we have to create an atmosphere where they can do things on their own. For example, if we want them to dress up on their own, then we must keep their cupboards organised in a way which they can operate easily. The clothes should be within their reach and kept systematically for the little hands to pick.

5.    Role modelling

Children learn by imitating and watching. Try to role model every activity for them in order to enable them to learn. For example, while brushing their teeth allow them to watch you and brush their teeth while standing next to you. They will learn by watching you do it.

Hope these tips work for you. Do write to me how you are teaching your kids to become independent. I would love to hear your stories.

This post was published on mycity4kids : https://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/my-kids-my-wings/article/raise-independent-kids-with-these-5-simple-tips

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Monsoon Must Haves for Travelling

 

This year we went for two outstation trips that too in monsoons. Monsoon is a beautiful time. Though it makes you stay indoors but I must say we enjoyed ourselves thoroughly during our outstation trips. A little preparation beforehand and monsoon gives you the memories of a lifetime.

With two little kids, I must say travelling during monsoons did not appeal to me but honestly, I am glad now that we did.

Here is a list of monsoon must haves while travelling that you must carry in your bags:

1)   Raincoats and umbrellas

I found raincoats handier while travelling with kids. It is better to cover the kids with raincoats than umbrellas. Kids get tired and very often you have to carry them. At that time it becomes difficult to carry and umbrella along with the child. Raincoats gives them freedom to play and move.

raincoat

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2)   Rubber boots

Rubber boots or rubber footwear are certainly the best when travelling outstation during the rains. They can be cleaned easily and gets dried soon. Rubber sandals are less slippery and allows the feet to breathe and become dry.

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3) Hand wash, sanitizers and wet wipes

These are the absolute must haves. Kids have the habit of touching everything they see. They tend to get their hands dirty and then try to wipe their hands with their clothes.  A small bottle of liquid hand wash and wipes comes to the rescue at that time. Wash their hands quickly and wipe them. If you cannot find water, then wipe their hands with wet wipes and put hand sanitizer.

Keeping hands clean is extremely essential to keep them safe from germs.

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4)   Mosquito repellent cream

Keeping a good natural mosquito repellent cream in your carry bag is also a must. Even if you apply it in the morning, chances are that it might get washed off after getting wet in the rains. A re-application becomes important to prevent mosquito bites.

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5)   Extra pair of clothes and snack packets

While travelling outdoors during monsoons, it is important to carry an extra pair of clothing for kids. In case kids get wet, it is advisable that you change their clothes during the journey to prevent them from catching cold.

The streets and roads become water clogged resulting in traffic jams. To prevent kids from becoming cranky while travelling, it is necessary that you carry snack packets which they can munch on. Even if they sleep in your arms, you are relaxed that they are not sleeping hungry stomach.

I must say, that by keeping in mind these tips, we had a great time with kids on our trips during the rains. Kids enjoyed themselves thoroughly giving us more reasons to enjoy ourselves.

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Celebrating Sisterhood on Raksha Bandhan

Raksha Bandhan is a festival which celebrates the bond of love between brothers and sisters. It is very special for those who have a brother or a sister. Earlier, even if somebody did not have a sister or a brother, there were cousins with whom this festival could be celebrated. A family gathering with uncles, aunts and cousins made this festival very special. With the family system getting smaller these days and people moving out of cities and going abroad, children do not get to see their cousins very often.I am blessed with an elder sister but don’t have a brother. During my childhood, we used to have a big family gathering with all my uncles, aunts and cousins on the day of Raksha Bandhan. My aunts would tie Rakhi to my dad and uncles and we would tie Rakhi to our cousins. Gradually, this ritual started decreasing with everybody getting busier in their own lives.

rakhi pis

Raksha Bandhan came, the markets were flooded with beautiful rakhis, my friends used to be excited for celebrating this occasion with their brothers and discuss what gifts they would be asking from their brothers. I felt sad for not having a brother to tie Rakhi on the occasion of Raksha Bandhan. My parents then asked me why do I need a brother when I had the most caring sister.

“I want a brother to tie Rakhi. I cannot celebrate Rakhi with a sister. All my friends have brothers and our cousins would be celebrating it in their house. I don’t have a brother to celebrate Raksha Bandhan,” was my reply.

My mother then made us celebrate Raksha Bandhan by tying Rakhi to our father. She said that fathers are like brothers too, for they care and protect us just like a brother. Our fathers love us the most and are there for us always.

This year, when I recalled that incident, I thought that my daughters too should not miss celebrating this beautiful festival just because they do not have a brother.

Raksha Bandhan celebrates the bond of love between siblings. Sisters share this great bond of love too. Sisters make the best of friends and always remain close to each other. The way a brother promises to protect his sister, a father protects his daughters too. So, why should this festival be limited to just brothers and sisters?

On the day of Raksha Bandhan, I decorated the thali with sweets, tilak, diya and rakhis. My daughters first tied Rakhi to their dad who loves them the most and protects them from any possible danger.

rakhi-thali-decoration

Then, they tied Rakhi to each other to celebrate the love that they have for each other. They promised to each other that they will stand with each other through thick and thin and will always be there for each other. They gave each other a hug and celebrated their sister love.

Raksha Bandhan is a festival of love and relationships. It is a great way of teaching our kids the value and meaning of family, love and relationships. Let us not just limit it to a brother sister relationship but take it as an opportunity to spread love and strengthen our bonds, be it only sisters or be it only brothers. In this way we celebrated Rakhi in our house. I would love to hear from you how you celebrated it.

This blog is a link up with Amrita and Deepa for #Mondaymommymoments.