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Be Your Daughter’s Best Confidante

 I still remember, when I was in school, my friends used to tell me how lucky I was to have parents with whom I could discuss and share everything. It used to really surprise me when they would tell me that the atmosphere in their homes was such that they could not say anything in front of their parents forget about confiding in them their secrets.

This never really happened with me. I have been blessed to have a family where I can share everything and feel secure of not being judged. My sister and my parents are my best pal and I have always openly discussed with them everything I want to.

Even in college, I used to feel this difference. My friends would come to the college dressed up in salwar suits, change their clothes in the washroom and go to watch movies with their friends. When I asked them why they did so, they would tell me that their parents would never permit them to wear western outfits or go for a movie with friends.

Till date, I feel that girls are not comfortable in doing things their own way. There are so many restrictions at home and so many do’s and don’ts that they have no option but to hide it from their parents. It later on creates problems for them.

“Romance fails us and so do friendships, but the relationship of parent and child, less noisy than all the others, remains indelible and indestructible, the strongest relationship on earth” – Theodor Reik

 

 

Very often the decision of getting married is also forced upon them directly or indirectly. If they face any problems related to physical relationships, they do not have anyone to confide in. The choice of a lifestyle is not given to them. They have to face morality lessons from everyone.

Even after marriage, there are many instances where the girl is not happy in her marriage but keeps on adjusting because of the simple fact that her family will not support her otherwise. Parents would only ask her to adjust no matter what.

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The lessons I learnt as a mother from these instances are:

1.   A girl should not feel hesitant to discuss her views on how and when she wants to get married. It’s okay if the parents want her to get married but it should not be forced upon her.

2.  If a girl is not happy in her marriage, the parents must understand the problems faced by her. She should also have the freedom of telling her parents about her relationship with the husband even if it is concerning her sexual life.

3.  In our culture, we never give importance to sexual life. It remains a subject which is never touched upon and nobody even peaks about it. When a girl gets married, it becomes a very important aspect of her married life and problems can crop up because of that. At that time, it becomes very important to have someone with whom such problems can be discussed.

4.  The freedom to choose their lifestyle is not given to girls. They must have this freedom to choose the kind of lifestyle they want to live or the kind of clothes they want to wear without being judged.

 

It is very important for parents to be their daughter’s best pal and have a relationship where they can share everything they feel like.

 This post is a part of Blog Birthday celebrations contest hosted by Zainab and Geethica.

 

 
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How Worksheets Benefit Young Learners

Academics play a great role in the development of a child. Right from the very beginning we try various methods of teaching concepts to our little ones. While for teaching toddlers and pre-schoolers, play way method and Montessori methods are the best, at the same time, we must not underestimate the role of worksheets in the teaching process.

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So, what are the benefits of worksheets for a pre-schooler?
1. Evaluation
When we are teaching a pre-schooler through play way method, it is also important to evaluate how much he has learnt. Worksheets help in evaluating the child’s learning of the concept.
2. Attention building
A child’s attention span is very less. But for a pre-schooler, it is important to gradually increase his attention span which is also important for learning academics. Worksheets help in building attention of a pre-schooler.
3. Better understanding
Worksheets are a fun way of providing an excellent understanding of different concepts. Worksheets provide an effective and enriching way of learning in less time.
4. Help the child learn to sit through for longer duration
Pre-schoolers are very active and love to run around and get involved in various activities. But since the pre-schoolers are getting ready for formal schools, it is important for them to learn to sit at a place and develop the habit of completing the task assigned. Worksheets help them in that process.
5. Builds an interest in studies
For a pre-schooler, it is also important to develop an interest in the formal method of studying. Worksheets are designed in a fun way with drawings and illustrations. They help in building an interest of the pre-schoolers in the formal way of teaching and learning process.
Keeping the above points in mind, I regularly create worksheets for my little one which has benefitted her greatly. She enjoys doing them and we spend some fun time together while learning a lot of things.

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Stay at Home Mom vs. Working Mom: The Child Speaks

Last week, there was a Mother’s Day celebration in my daughter’s school. She was very excited since it was her first performance in her newly joined school. She asked me to come early and take the first seat, which would make it possible for her to see me. I reached her school in time and as instructed by her took a seat in the front row.
Children came in a row and my daughter quickly spotted me. She started beaming with joy and waving at me. They performed beautifully and in the middle of the performance too, my daughter was waving at me. After the performance, there were several fun activities to be performed by mom and child. All the while, my daughter was dancing here and there, jumping with delight telling everyone, how pretty her mother looks. She came to me, bowed in front of me and said, “Your majesty, you look so beautiful.”

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Just then my eyes fell on a little girl who was sitting in a corner of the stage looking very sad. I went to her and asked her as to what happened and where was her mother.
She started weeping and said, “My mother did not come today. She has gone for her duty. She comes very late at night. Its mother’s day celebration today, I was performing for her but she did not come.”
I took her in my lap, she hugged me tight and started wailing even more. I tried my best consoling her and told her mom loves you and she will come soon. She kept repeating, “Mom is never with me, she comes very late at night. She leaves the house early every day.”
She kept sitting in my lap for some time till it was time for lunch. All the children happily sat down to eat their lunch but that girl was still sad. She sat alone, opened her lunch box had a bite or two and kept it back in her bag. She looked at other moms who were there for their kids with tears in her eyes. The sadness in her eyes, the way she looked at other moms with their kids was the heart-wrenching.
In the afternoon, when my elder one came back from school, she hugged me tight and said, “Mom, I got full marks in my English test and Hindi dictation. It is all because of you.”
The debate of going back to work after having kids will go on forever and whatever decision a mother takes is always the best for her child and her family. But I must say, this incident and the teary-eyed look of that little girl will stay in my heart forever.

This post is also published on Momspresso.

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5 Tips to Teach Kids About How to Save Water

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We are celebrating Earth Day this week. Just as we have started realising the importance of conservation of our natural environment and taking various steps around it, it is equally important to make kids understand it also. Children are the future of this world. It is more important for them to learn and follow the steps towards saving their environment.
Water is the most important resource and kids love to play with water. However, in this natural tendency, they tend to waste a lot of water. It is important to take necessary steps around their playing with water which should ensure that there is minimum wastage and maximum enjoyment also.

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Tips to save water for kids
1. Kids love to play while taking a bath. They love making bubbles and splashing water here and there. While giving kids a bath. Instead of giving them bath in a shower can use a tub filled with water. After bathing the child, the water can be used for washing toilets or flushing.
2. While brushing and washing their hands, they tend to leave the tap running for and play in water. We can make them understand that how it leads to wastage of water and instead keep a bucket full of water in the bathroom for washing their hands or brushing.

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3. Children drink less water at a time. If we give them a glass full of water, they leave half of it. We can keep a tumbler or a separate bottle for them and encourage them to drink from it. If they leave water in a glass, encourage them to use that water for the plants.
4. A lot of water is discarded by RO water purifiers. We can collect that water and keep it in a bucket. Let kids use that water for watering the plants or flushing purposes.
5. Tell them about various ways of recycling or reusing water. While washing pulses and vegetables, we can show them that water can be collected in a separate utensil after washing the pulses and vegetables and can be used for various other washing or cleaning purposes.

Water is important for everyone and we need to save every drop of it. If we teach our kids about saving water right from the beginning, they develop the right habits to save every single drop of it.





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Activities for Learning Patterns and Free Printable

Patterns are found everywhere around us. They bring order and regularity in our lives. You must have noticed how even a small child starts forming patterns and learns to put up random objects in a certain kind of pattern. For example, even a toddler quickly starts joining blocks and gives them a certain order. Kids find it too interesting to arrange utensils like bowls and spoons in a certain order or pattern. This is because it is our basic tendency to create an order or arrange the things out of unorderly things.

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Why learning patterns is important for children?
Patterns are all around us, be it buildings, flowers, trees, bridges, floor tiles and so on. Patterns are taught as a part of maths, bet they are used in almost every subject. Even music and dance has patterns. Learning about patterns is an important part of future learning. They help in making predictions and generalizations. It is a basic maths skill. Patterns help us to create a balance and bring harmony in our everyday lives. They also help us in learning logic, sequencing and structure.

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How to teach patterns to kids?
Patterns are not only easy to learn but interesting also. Recently, I did a few simple activities to teach pattern to my daughter. I used simple things like spoons, butter knives, forks, pens and pencils for this activity.

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I arranged similar objects in simple pattern and asked her to put in the line which object comes next. We did this activity for a while taking various objects and changing the pattern. She enjoyed it a lot.

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Also, the best way to teach pattern is take the kids outdoor and let them observe pattern in real life like zebra crossing, pattern on a tree, the arrangement of various pots and plants in the garden and so on.
Once, the child has learnt patterns and can create pattern on his own. You can give them worksheets or printable for practice.
I am attaching here the downloadable version of a few worksheets that I created and gave my daughter to practice patterns. Click on the link below to download free printable for learning patterns.

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