Motherhood is indeed a very challenging phase. It is a phase that changes a woman completely. So much so, that I cannot even recognise myself now. But there is one thing which I know about myself now and that is I am a mother. Before that I had many words in my dictionary to describe myself but now one word sums me up completely i.e. A Mother.
When my elder one was born, I used to think that perhaps handling a new born is the most difficult phase. Soon, she turned two and I felt “Oh My God! This is terrible.” Her tantrums were beyond control. I assured myself then that perhaps this is the most difficult phase. It will be better once she grows up a little.
Then, started her schooling. Every morning, half an hour used to be the crying time; “I don’t want to go to school!”
Again, I consoled myself, “This too shall pass”.
Ultimately, we sailed through. Now, again years have gone by, I am a mother of two now. But Motherhood challenges seems to be unending.
The New Born:
Be it a new born baby or should I call “the new born mom”, this is the challenge where both simply do not know each other. How to do? What to do? At times, even “why am I here?” “why do I have to be surrounded in poops and vomits all the times?” “Can someone handle the baby while I can go peacefully to the loo?”
With a new born in hand, I often found myself clueless. “Is the baby alright while sleeping?” “Did I miss the sound of the burp?”
It’s okay moms. You are doing just fine and the baby is fine too. No need to stress yourself too much there.
Toddler Tantrums
Not only the terrible twos but my kids have been throwing tantrums much after that. I don’t know when they will stop doing so. They copy each other and follow each other’s footsteps just to get our attention. For handling a toddler, one needs to be a pro in diverting the kid’s attention.
The Fussy Eater
Another big challenge for a mom is too deal with the fussy eating habits of her child. Whatever is served to them will rarely go down their tummies. I remember how I ended up over eating myself with the leftover food of my kids and resulted in few extra kilos of weight on myself.
Then spotting a pigeon in the balcony came to my rescue. I would love to thank all the pigeons and crows that perched my balcony when my toddler would throw a tantrum while eating. Spotting a pigeon always helped me in diverting her attention and make her eat a bite or two.
The Pre-Schooler and the Senior School Going
Now, when one of my girls is going to Grade 4 and another one is in kindergarten, managing their studies at the same time becomes a challenge. At the time when I was not a mother, I could easily handle 40 students in my classroom. Now, teaching two at home has become terrible.
You keep any number of stationery and still the eraser is forever missing. All the sharpened pencils suddenly lose their tips.
Patience, Patience and some more Patience
In between all these challenges, one thing which goes amiss is your patience. The biggest challenge then becomes is to take hold of your sanity and patience. Once you get hold of it, other things start falling in place.
So, all the mommies out there, what are your challenges in this beautiful journey of motherhood? Do share with me.
A fellow blogger shares her wonderful thoughts on the same topic.
Enjoy reading her thoughts Amrita andDeepa .
This post has been written for #MondayMommyMoments.
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Very interesting
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Patience is the word I think a woman should memorise when she conceives!
Everything is hard and everything is warm!
Great post!
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This is spot-on. So many phases and so many challenges and the only thing that will tide us mom’s through is patience
I know, motherhood brings with itself, its share of struggles , ups and downs, but nothing beats the feeling if seeing your kids happy at the end of the day
you have summed up every mother’s plight very nicely. I am hoping for a pigeon to land in my balcony so that I could distract my little one into having some more bites.
Thanks for sharing!
So very well written. Every phase has its own challange. Parenting is a never ending process.
In every phase , you just think that it’s the most difficult one. Thanks for liking.
Seriously at every stage when we feel we will finally its done we have a new challenge
I learn the meaning of word Patience only after becoming a mother of two. I really love your post. Motherhood is really a challenging journey for all
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I completely agree with the article. Motherhood is one journey which begins with conceiving a child and ends only with the mother resting in peace. I think not even after that. But I am proud to be able to give birth and give upbringing to my daughter. Wonderful posts.
Such an honest post Vidhi. All the mothers face these phases and when they sail through one, it seems that was easy. Lovely read 🙂
So on point! Every stage has its challenges and the work never really ends, does it! I’m going through a very pesky toddler stage now and sometimes I feel like I’m making a mess of it! But like you said, this too shall pass! 🙂
Such a wonderful post. So agree with you that all it requires is patience, patience and more patience to deal with the challenges of every phase. I hope I never lose my patience ever.
I have reached the fussy eater stage with my almost 11 months old. And I think it gets challenging.
It’s difficult when even a small bite does not go down their tummies
Mother is the correct tag that is given to us by nature. And managing studies of two different children is a real big task.
Great sum up! So the mantra is to keep patience and enjoy motherhood. The most difficult and beautiful journey. Thanks for sharing your experience. ?
Once a mother, patience becomes the mantra. I am learning to stay calm and have been calmer with each passing day.
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Oh that’s so true! You hope for things to get better when the current phase is over, but then a new one pops up. The one thing motherhood has taught me is to expect the unexpected.
Patience…I’m breathing in and out even while I type it. Great post.
So aptly said, motherhood is very challenging at every stage. I am currently at the toddler stage struggling with tantrums
I am hanging around Toddler Tantrums and Fussy Eater…Pheww have more challenging phases yet..:(
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It’s just the beginning 🙂
Yes mother will definitely teaches you a lot of things that you never thought you would be doing
You are right
i really liked the blog, especially the part where you say kids throw tantrus despite their age – true dat!
Glad that you liked it
Such a beautiful post… Motherhood has its own challenges in every phase… It’s how we take it and go about it in our own unique way
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motherhood is demanding but at the end of the day when you see happy faces that just makes things easier and rewarding
That’s right
Fussy eater !! Oh yes I am nodding my head.My kid will eat all the unhealthy food in the world but will not eat healthy meals prepared by me ?
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First of all..welcome to #MondayMommyMoments Vidhi. Beautiful post and I can completely relate to it. Thanks for writing for #MMM 🙂
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I agree, patience is the only mantra that can sail us through all these above mentioned phases..
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Beautifully written post. My toddler is currently going through the terrible twos phase and I swear it requires all the patience in the world to keep her calm…. Thank you for sharing this.
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