Almost every girl and woman must have faced and encountered an incident in our lives where some boy or man teased us, touched us inappropriately, harassed or molested us at some point in time or the other. What impact have such incidents left on us? Can we ever forget that day or the moment when these things happened?
Let’s try to remember what happened on that day. Where we went wrong? What did we do to gain such an unwanted attention? How and why were we victimized to such an extent that even years later we cannot overcome that feeling of disgust, fear and hatred. The incidents that I am narrating are very common and happened with my close friends during our growing up years.
- She was in her sixth standard, her friend who used to accompany her on her way back home was absent that day, even the senior girls who lived near her house and studied in the same school as hers had left early for home. She had no other choice but to walk alone to her house after school. The streets were generally deserted during the hot summer afternoons and on the way, was a Government Boys School which got over at the same time. She started walking towards home. As she approached near the street that led to the Boys School, she saw three senior boys coming towards her. They were staring at her, passing remarks and laughing at her. She felt nervous. They walked towards her, blocking her way. She clenched the strings of her school bag tightly, scared, nervous. She tried to move away from them but they dodged her way. Finally, she managed to escape. She ran as fast as she could not to stop until she reached home. Years later, she could still remember that afternoon.
- She was going for her tuition classes, not far away from her home. She had barely reached the end of the street when suddenly a biker stopped right in front of her. The boy took off her helmet, kissed her and quickly rode off. Before she could even realise what had happened, he had vanished. She stood there motionless, unable to think of anything. She ran back her home, dived into her bed, cried incessantly. She had never seen him, nor had ever met him. When her parents came to know about it, they stopped her tuition classes and hired a home tutor for her. She was stopped from going out anywhere alone. She could leave the house only with her brother. What was her fault? Why was she stopped from going out of her house? Did anybody stop that boy from riding a bike? He wasn’t even an adult!
- She was playing Hide n’ Seek with her friends outside her house. She was hiding behind a car. Her friend was also hiding nearby. A man came on a bicycle, he was about the age of her father. He stopped in front of her, got off from the bicycle, stooped down on the pretext of checking the wheel. Staring deeply at her, he unzipped his pants and showed her something! She did not know what it was, but it was very dirty. She felt sick and filthy. She ran back home. She did not know what to say and how to explain. At night, she could still see that man in the dark, grinning at her. She could not sleep at night, nor could she forget that incident years later.
- She was in her hostel, pursuing teacher’s training. Vacations had started and she was leaving for her home with a group of friends. They had planned to board the same bus for a certain distance and take different ones after reaching the main bus stop. The bus was over crowded. They manage to board it and after a while found seats to sit. She was chatting with her friend, when she felt something rubbing against her shoulder. She looked behind and saw an elderly man staring at her and rubbing his softest part against her. She felt sick inside. She did not have the courage to say anything to him. She asked her friend to change seat with her. When she rose, the man had vanished in the crowd. She was left with a sick, dirty and filthy feeling inside her.
There must be innumerable such incidents or even worse. The perpetrators could be men of different caste, age group, educational or social backgrounds. What do they get by doing such things? FUN? What fun? From where do they learn such things? From where do they get the right to do such things?
It’s our ingrained mindset of thinking that males are a superior race. Just by being born with a set of different organs, they get the right to do almost anything with their female counterparts.
We always teach our girls to be decent, cultured, obeying and non-complaining. But we are wrong. We need to teach the boys that they are wrong. They are wrong if they think that girls are something to have fun with. They are wrong if they consider themselves as a superior race and expect women to bow down to every whims and fancy that they have. It is not okay to tease, harass, touch inappropriately or victimize them in any way. RAPE IS A SEVERE CRIME THAT THEY COMMIT. THEY DESERVE A SEVERE PUNISHMENT FOR THAT. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, NO MORE TALKS, BUT LETS STOP RAPE.