It really makes me worried as a mother of two to read about the various incidents happening around with children. Earlier, we were allowed to play outside in the streets or in the parks all alone or with friends till very late in the evening. But now, we are too scared to let our children go alone anywhere. It’s sad and terrifying that incidents of rape with small kids are happening in school. Even schools are not a safe place for children these days.
Two years back, when we were on a house hunt, our most important criteria was to have our house which should be nearer to the school of our kids. When we shifted in the new locality, we had a sigh of relief that at last our kids’ school was at a walking distance from our house. I could manage to pick and drop my kids to their school by myself. Though, it is not easy these days to have a house which can be nearer to school, but if we can have then it is really a blessing. Sadly, even then we cannot ensure the safety of our kids fully with sad incidents happening in the school itself.
Here are a few tips to ensure the safety of our kids:
- Be open and frank with the child.
We should remain open and frank with our children. Children should feel free to come and tell us about anything without any kind of fear. They should feel free to come to us and tell us about anything and everything that they like. We should have an unbiased and encouraging atmosphere at home where kids find themselves comfortable to express themselves.
2. Educating a child about their own safety.
We must educate our children to be very careful and cautious. We must tell them that they should not talk to any strangers or get lured away by anyone. They should try to be with their friends and not wander away on their own. They should inform the teacher if they come across somebody they feel scared of.
3.The good touch and the bad touch
A very important thing for a child is to understand the difference between the good and the bad touch. They should learn about their private parts and should not expose them to anyone. If someone tries to approach them in indecent way, they should immediately inform their parents.
4. Having daily conversations
One more important thing is to have daily conversations with kids. Spend time with your kids as soon as they come from their school and let them tell you about their day at school. Listen to them patiently even if they talk about very little and unimportant things. It helps in building trust and the child feels important in front of you. That half an hour or one hour after school is very important for daily conversations as they are too excited to tell you about everything that happened in school.
5. Never leave your child unguarded or unattended
This is extremely important. These days, we cannot trust anyone. Kids are not safe at any place. Try to be with the kids as much as you can both physically and mentally. Leaving the child unattended or unguarded even for a minute is not good.
6. Observe the child
Children have terrible mood swings. But even then we should not dismiss any little change in their behaviour or let it go unnoticed. We must keep asking and enquiring the child about what bothers them or makes them uncomfortable.
We must also teach our kids to raise an alarm and not suppress themselves due to any kind of fear.
It is not possible to be with the kids all the times but it is possible to be there for them always. Our kids are the centre of our universe, we must do our best to ensure their safety and security in the best possible means.
This blog was published on mycity4kids: https://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/my-kids-my-wings/article/kids-these-days-are-not-safe-anywhere-here-is-what-you-can-do
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