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Before You Change Your Baby’s Diaper, Do These 3 Things

We are back with another guest post on my blog. This post is by Erica Johnson.

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Erica Johnson is the Main Editor for Inner Parents and a very proud mother of two who’s passionate about the latest parenting tips & baby products.

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Babies, especially infants, are really good at a few things during their first stage of life: sleeping, eating: and making a complete mess in their diapers. Some parents have a little difficult with the last one, especially if they have not changed a diaper before.

Don’t worry! With InnerParents diaper changing tips: 3 things to do before you change your baby’s diaper, even the most inexperienced parent will become an expert in no time.

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1. Set up your station

The last thing you want is to be hands deep in a messy diaper change and realize that you left your diapers, or diaper cream downstairs. Before you get started make sure that all of your necessities are easily within arms reach. Every diaper station should have plenty of diapers, wipes, and diaper-rash cream easily within reach.

Diaper changing supplies:

·         Wash cloth or wipes

·         Disposable or cloth diapers

·         Rash cream

·         Bag for soiled items

·         Set of extra clothes (just in case)

2. Make sure your baby is safe

Before you get into the actual diaper changing, you want to ensure that your baby is in a
safe place. This is especially true if they are high up, such as on a changing table, a bed, or a couch. If straps are available, use them. Even your newborn who can’t roll yet can stretch and fall of the surface. Don’t just rely on these straps, keep a constant eye on your baby to ensure that they are safe.

3. Distract your baby

You probably don’t need anyone to tell you the babies are antsy. Especially when you need them to lie still for a diaper change. In order to set yourself up for a smooth diaper changing experience, have something in mind to
keep him or her occupied. Play peek-a-boo, place a mobile over the changing table, sing songs, shake a rattle. This will help your little stay focused on something other than the fact you are changing their and prevent wiggling mid-change.

Once your set up, you’re ready to get down to business! Here’s how you’ll tackle the diaper change:

1.      Once you’re set up, put the baby on your designated changed surface

2.      Make sure you have the new diaper and a few wipes ready before you remove any clothing and diaper

3.      Open the buttons on your child’s outfit or remove the pants to check if any diaper contents have spilled into the clothing. Focus on removing this mess first.

4.      If the diaper only contains urine, gently clean the baby’s parts.

5.      If the diaper is soiled gently use remove any excrement with the diaperas you fold it up under the baby.

6.      Use a wipe to clean from front to back. Make sure you check and clean under all of the folds of your baby’s skin. This may take several wipes.

7.      Once the baby is clean, use diaper rash cream where necessary and put on a clean diaper.

Did you enjoy this list? If so, don’t forget to like and share! Use the comments below to tell us about your favorite way to prepare for your baby’s diaper change. 

 

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A beginner’s guide to baby wearing- what do you need to know

This is a guest post by a fellow blogger Anjana Bhartia.

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Anjana Bhartia is a mommy blogger at MommyRepublic.in She describes herself as an imperfect mom stumbling through motherhood, discovering the joys of natural and attachment parenting along the way. 
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Carrying a baby to enhance the physical attachment is a traditional practice in many Asian countries. The modern practice of carrying or attaching a baby with oneself with the help of a sling or any fitment is called as baby wearing. These slings and accessories aid to carry a baby is known as Baby carriers.

Any baby who has crossed the period of first three months is ready for baby wearing. However, you need to ensure the following points before starting baby wearing.

 

A baby should have

  • crossed three months of age
  • gained latching power to feed in baby carriers
  • a good control over his neck to fit into baby carriers

The above considerations are imperative, and once you are confident that your baby is now ready to be carried in carriers, you ought to make sure which type of carriers are suitable for you and your baby.

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Safe and sound baby carriers:

We can see a range of baby carriers in the market, so choose the one which best suits your body and lifestyle.

Wraps:

Wraps are the most basic and simplest of all baby carriers. A fabric, any kind be it cotton, linen, wool, knits or woven is used to carry a baby and this traditional practice has been around for many years. Wraps ensure safety and comfort in carrying a baby irrespective of its age; ranging from infant to toddlers. Learning to tie a wrap seems to be difficult initially but it will turn out to be simple with practice.

Slings:

In slings, we have two different models which have gained popularity. One is Ring sling and the other is a pouch sling.

As the name suggest, ring slings use a metal ring to join two sides of a 2 meter fabric. These rings are adjustable and ensure right positioning of a baby. The excess fabric gives a tail like appearance which can be used to cover babies while nursing or protect against sun light.

On the other hand, pouch slings are custom-made and cannot be transferred between caregivers. Having a similar structure that of ring slings, these non-adjustable fabric are stitched or woven to suit the size of baby and caregivers.

Buckle carriers:

The most popular kind of carriers are bucklers. Adjustable buckles over shoulders and across the hip guarantee safety while carrying kids. As straps are adjustable, it can be shared between caregivers. This particular type is good for nursing a baby while carrying.

Meh Dai:

This type of baby carriers are a mix of both modern and traditional style in babywearing. Sharing similar pattern with buckle carriers, Meh Dai uses fabric for strips over both shoulders and hip area. Longer strips on the shoulders cannot be modified in size, though shorter strips over the hip can be adjusted.

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Advantages of baby wearing:

The practice of baby wearing has lot of benefits and few of them are listed below:

  • It extends the parent- child relationship by providing a physical bond between baby and parents, which is essential in the early days.

 

  • Baby wearing helps in overcoming postpartum depression by developing an intimate physical bond. It also facilitates breastfeeding. For dads also it’s a great way to get skin on skin contact with baby.

 

  • It allows more body movement for babies when compared to carry cots, and babies enjoy the swaying motion you will make when moving about.
  • Baby wearing allows the parent to work while holding the baby, so that you can get some of those chores done! How in the world does a tiny human have so much laundry!

I started babywearing quite late, because I used to have severe back ache issues. My only regret is that I should have started sooner! In case you were wondering I chose an Ergobaby baby carrier because of the safety certifications and because was flame retardants free. Since then I have discovered many new and awesome brands (and much more cheaper) on Instagram!

So do check out all the varieties and brands available in the market before finalizing one! Babywearing is a joy, which every mother should enjoy! Have you tried baby wearing? Share below!
 

 

 

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Ten Fun Games to Play with Kids while Travelling

Christmas holidays are around the corner and we have already made our travel plans for the New Year celebrations with our friends. With my 2 kids I generally start planning much ahead and start preparing my list of all the essentials. Apart from the other essentials, I prepare a separate handbag for kids in which I keep some things to keep the kids entertained throughout the journey. The bag usually kids little knick knacks to keep them busy.

During the journey, we often have to wait in long queues at the airport or at other places, even while travelling by car, kids become irritable and impatient by sitting at one place.To kill this boredom while waiting and keep our little ones engaged, we play some fun games which do not require any props and make their brain tickle too.

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Here’s a list of ten fun waiting games to challenge the brain of our little ones and let them have fun while travelling and waiting almost anywhere.

  1. What’s there in my purse?

After becoming a mother, my handbag has become like a smaller version of a cupboard which has a small size packing of almost everything, from small packet of wet wipes, sanitizer, small moisturiser, hand wash liquid, small toys, makeup essentials, little snack packets and what not. All these things make my bag a curious corner for the kids. I take advantage of it and play a game with them. I ask them to list or guess ten things that might be there in my purse. The one who comes closest to, wins the game.

  1. What’s missing?

I place ten things in front of them. Ask them to remember the things for about ten seconds. After that I tell them to close their eyes for a few seconds and while they are doing so, I hide 2-3 things. My children have to guess the things that are missing. It helps in making their memories strong and they have lots of fun too.

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  1. True or lie?

For this game, one member takes a turn and says three statements. Two statements out of them needs to be false and one statement should be true. The other members have to guess which statements are true and which ones are lies. This is a fun game in which other members can join in too.

  1. How many can you name?

Think of any general category, for example, birds. Ask the child to name as many words as he can think of in that category in ten seconds. May be the name of ten birds or parts of the body of birds. With older kids, you can be more specific like, flightless birds or birds of prey. Modify the game according to the age of the child and have fun.

  1. Drop a coin

This game is played with a coin. The challenge of this game is to drop it in such a way so that it lands on your shoe and not on the floor. It becomes fun when each participant takes turn to drop the coin.

  1. Word chain

This one is our favourite. The game begins by saying loud an alphabet. One person starts by saying a word with that alphabet, for example, garden. The next player has to add a word starting with the last letter of the previous word, for example, garden, necklace. The next one will continue the chain by saying all the previous words of the chain and adding one more word, for example, garden, necklace, escalator, so on.

  1. DMAS

We play this game every time we are travelling by road or car. This game is based on the concept of DMAS of Maths. So, it is for older kids who are familiar with division, multiplication, addition and subtraction. I must say, this is our saviour during all the traffic jams. For this, one person tells out the four digits from the number plate of any car which he spots on the road. The digit must be between 1- 9. The other members have to use the four operation of DMAS and make the equivalent zero. Sounds easy? Try it for some food for the brains.

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  1. Atlas

My kids love to play this game with their dad in the car. The game begins by saying an alphabet. The first player has to say the name of any city, country or continent with that letter, the next player will then say the name of another city, country or continent beginning with the last letter of the previously said place. For example, the first player says, India. The next player will say the name of any city, country or continent beginning with the letter ‘a’. For example, Asia. This game becomes super fun when all the members join in.

  1. In my purse is a story

Kids love to invent stories. They can create a story out of anything. Give them three things from your purse and challenge them to invent a story around those three things. I am sure you will have some of the craziest stories that will make you laugh during those boring long waits and long journey.

  1. Imaginary traveller

This one goes with the consecutive alphabets. Tell the children that they are travellers in a fantasy land. They have to build a sentence using the name of a place, person and object that they are going to visit and taking along. For example, I am going to Aunt Anita’s house in Alaska and taking my Armchair along. The next player starts with the next alphabet. Tell them to be as silly as they can be.

Try these ideas and make your next journey as fun as it can be. Do share with me your ideas too in the comment box and let our kids have fun while travelling.

This post is in link up with Deepa Gandhi and Dr Amrita Basu. Do read their ideas travelling with kids.

I have written this post for #MMM #MondayMommyMoments.

 

 

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DIY Handmade Toys Ideas For Kids

Kids love toys and it doesn’t matter how many of them they have, they still keep asking for more. Toys have a big role in their development. Each and every toy has a very special place in our children’s heart.

I remember how in school we were taught to make handmade toys, toys made out of rags, old socks, and old material lying around the house and knitted toys. I thought of making the same with my kids. The project would be interesting for sure, it will bring out their imagination and creativity plus we can have a good craft to do over the weekend.

When I suggested my kids that we can make our toys at home, they could not believe at first. For them toys can only bought from the market. So, we decided that we will make our own toys at home and have lots and lots of fun while making them and playing with them.

Old Socks Toys

Toys made out of old socks are very simple and easy to make. For this we used old socks, markers, rags, material to stuff inside like old foam, sponge pieces, cotton, rags etc.

 

For this doll, we took two pair of socks. One sock to make the body and one for the dress. Here is how we made it:

We took an old piece of cloth of skin colour, kept some foam in it and gave it the shape of a ball. I stitched it to make the face. My daughter made the features with a marker.

For the body, we took a sock, cut the part which covers the leg. I stitched it from below and let the kids fill it with foam pieces. After filling the sock piece, I stitched the head and body together. I cut the remaining piece of sock into half, filled it with foam and stitched it to form the arms. I joined the arms with the body. My daughters had a great time in dressing the doll with rags.

 

My daughters are crazy about Peppa Pig and George Pig. They asked me whether we can make them too.

We tried to make Mr Dinosaur with an old sock.

For this, we traced the drawing of Mr Dinosaur on a sheet of paper. I cut the socks in the shape of Mr Dinosaur and stitched it. We filled it up with cotton wool. We used old black cloth pieces to give the shape of arms and legs, filled it up with cotton and joined it. The teeth were made by using laces and eyes with a black button.

How about a mom and a baby doll? We used an old cardboard box and covered it with cloth to make our own doll house.

Hand knitted Toys and Finger Puppets

When my daughters showed their toys to their grandmother, she joined the fun too and made hand knitted finger puppets and toys for them.

These are the various knitted finger puppets for our finger family song. Can you see that there is George Pig too and Nariyal Anna from Art Attack? Not to forget Kung Foo Panda.

 

These hand knitted dolls can be used as finger puppets as well as any other dolls to play with.

 

We made Peppa Pig too. The knitting part can be done by an adult and stuffing part can be done by the kids.

Rag Toys

What to do when you have pieces of old cloth lying around? We made rag toys. Just cut the cloth piece in the shape of the toy you want and fill it up with cloth pieces. With a few stitches, it’s done.

 

 

Benefits of Home Made Toys

I must say we had hours of fun and learning too while making these toys. There are several benefits of this activity:

  1. Children can use them as puppets or like toys for make belief playing. We can also make our own toys for storytelling.
  2. These toys are very safe to use. There is no hazardous material used in it. These are not plastic. Even if the child puts it in his mouth, there is no harm.
  3. These are very cost friendly. Toys these days are very expensive and make a hole in our pockets. Home-made toys save money.
  4. These are also a good craft activity for kids. Kids not only enjoy making them but also learn a lot.
  5. Toy making saves plenty of screen time. Kids get involved in a constructive activity and get some time off from the screens.
  6. Kids lean to value and save money. They get to learn that they can save money and buying innumerable toys leads to a waste of money.
  7. These toys are very environment friendly. Plastic toys are extremely hazardous. We are extremely worried while using plastic toys as kids might put them in their mouth and also they are unsafe for the environment. These toys are biodegradable also based on the principles of the 4 R’s- Refuse, Reduce, Reuse and Recycle.

 

So, go ahead and enjoy this fun activity with your kid during the Christmas holidays. No more getting bored or being glued to the TV. This activity is sure to give you endless fun and learning too.

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Understanding Cyber Safety and Protecting Our Kids from Online Dangers

We live in a world where we are surrounded by technology. Internet has become an essential part of our lives. With an easy access to internet, we can enter a whole new world of knowledge, resources and social media. This is the digital world where we can enter with a simple swipe of screen. This lucrative and highly useful digital world is never free from its potential threats and dangers. The most vulnerable victims of this digital world are our kids.

Our innocent kids get easily lured by the videos, images and animations shown to them over the mobiles. They get easily attracted and addicted to the online content being shown to them. Therefore, it becomes highly important to protect them from the various cyber dangers and ensure their online safety.

What is cyber safety and why is it so important?

From the very beginning we become extremely careful with kids. We try to protect them in our best possible way from any danger. We even teach our kids about keeping themselves safe in and out of the house. Just like our world, the digital world is also full of threats, predators, thieves and other bad elements. People try to hack our accounts, steal our identities, and sneak into our private lives and of course, the exposure to inappropriate content.

Children learn to swipe the screens of the mobiles even before they learn to speak clearly. They recognise the icons and know how to play the content of their choice. That is where the problem starts. We think and ensure ourselves that our child is merely watching his favourite cartoon and leave our phones in their custody. But the child might accidentally misprint something or click on the content which he or she must not be exposed to.

Recently, we came to know about the infamous ‘Blue Whale Challenge’ and how teenagers have started committing suicide because of that. That is just one example of how dangerous the digital world can be and how vulnerable our kids are.

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What are the various Cyber Dangers?

There can be various kinds of cyber dangers. To name a few:

1.  Exposure to inappropriate or adult content

2.  Cyber bullying or cyber harassment from others online

3.  Eye strain or wrist strain

4.  Internet addiction

5.  Bad websites like chat room, computer games which might have adult content and other social networking sites.

 

Five Golden Rules for entering the digital world

Just like we teach our kids certain rules for their safety. There are certain rules which we need to teach our kids for ensuring cyber safety.

1)  Don’t give out personal information like address or phone number.

2)  Don’t send our pictures of yourself to anyone especially indecent pictures.

3) Don’t open emails or attachments from persons you don’t know.

4)  If there is anything that you see or read online, worries you, tell someone about it.

5)  Never arrange to meet someone in person whom you have met online.

 

Ten tips to ensure online safety of our kids

1. Use an internet security suite on all the computers you own.

2. Keep your home network secured with a good password and security settings.

3. Learn to avoid clicking links, ads and emails from people you don’t know.

4. Use a good password which is unique and complex on all your devices and accounts. It should have a good combination of alphabets, numbers and special characters.

5. Talk to your kids about avoiding cybercrime and tell them to be cautious.

6. Advise your kids never to share passwords, not even with close friends.

7. Teach your children to log out of computers after finishing their work.

8. Use the security and privacy settings on all your social networks and all accounts to limit who can access your posts.

9. Learn about parental control settings for all your devices.

10. Talk to your kids regularly about how to use technology.

With these measures in mind, try to keep your kids safe online. Be alert and be cautious before handing out any gadgets to your kids because you never know who might try to harm them and where.

I am writing this post for #MMM #MondayMommyMoments. This post is in link up with Deepa Gandhi and Dr Amrita Basu

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Deer Park: A Hidden Gem of Delhi

The festive season has started and my daughter’s school was closed for term end break. I wanted to take them to some new and different place that they have never been to. There are many new places that our city offers for kids, malls, play areas, gaming zones and theme parks. While we go there every now and then, I wanted to take them to some place which would delight them and offer them some kind of learning.

While searching for some fun places to go with kids, I came across Deer Park. Initially, I thought it to be a simple park which lies forgotten in the heart of the city like many other parks. I read more about it and got to know that there are some animals to see. I decided to explore the place with my kids.

We went there at about noon time, the weather has become pleasant now making it a good time to visit open areas. There are various enclosures in the park, one of them has rabbits and guinea pigs. Kids were so happy and excited to see rabbits and guinea pigs, they were not ready to move from there. A little ahead was another enclosure where there are large number of deer and peacocks. It was joy to see the kids jumping around like deer and peacocks, making the visit more joyful.

A big lake makes the place look more beautiful and peaceful, adding to the picturesque beauty of the place were various types of ducks. The place is very calm, serene and beautiful. Once inside, I could not believe for a while that I was in Delhi, given the fact that our city has become so crowded and polluted. It was a bliss to find myself there. The lush green gardens, animals roaming freely inside the huge enclosures, chirping of birds, chattering of monkeys, squirrels running here and there provides a treat for the eyes.


The place provides learning and entertaining experience to the visitors especially kids. The nature walk and exposure to sunlight is an advantage which the place offers to the urban kids who are more prone to staying indoors and becoming glued to the screens. The fresh air gives a boost to the lungs which have become used to inhaling the pollution of the city.

The walk in the lap of nature is very refreshing especially in such a place where there are deer, peacocks and rabbits around. The entry is also free and there is no time duration for the stay there. The place is open every day from 5:00 AM to 8:00 AM during the summers till October and 5:30 AM to 7:00 PM during winter. So, if you are thinking of taking your kids to for a nature trail and making memories, Deer Park is sure to delight you.

Where is it located: Hauz Khas, Delhi.

 

 

 

 

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The Super Food: Quinoa and its Health Benefits for Kids

The theme of the National Nutrition Week for 2017 is “Optimal infant and Young Child Feeding Practices : Better Child Health”. When I read about it, my motherly instincts immediately led me to start surfing for some super foods for kids. One of the super foods which I came across is Quinoa. Quinoa is included in one of the world’s healthiest food. It is also very good for children who are in the middle of growing phase.

So, what makes me write about this particular super food? Well, I was simply fascinated by it’s truly amazing health benefits especially for the kids. Here, are the nutrients that make quinoa a truly super food.

1. High Calcium-

We all know that calcium is extremely important for the development of bones in growing children. Quinoa has high amount of calcium along with Vitamin D which is important for its natural absorption.

2. Complete Protein-

Quinoa is one of the best plant based source of protein. Protein is required for keeping and building tissue for our body. It also helps in building the immune system in children and preventing illnesses.

3. A Great Antioxidant-

Antioxidants which are present in this super food are helpful for fighting radicals in children’s body. Radicals can be harmful for the body and can cause some serious illnesses.

4. Rich Source of Fibre-

Quinoa is a rich source of fibre which helps reducing the risk of obesity in children.

5. High in Iron-

A very important micro nutrient which is extremely beneficial for the development of brain and immune system is iron. Quinoa is highly rich in iron which makes it beneficial for mental and physical health.

6. Good Source of Vitamin-

It is rich in Vitamins like A, D and E. All these micro nutrients are very essential for children for their overall development.

After knowing so much about this super food, I couldn’t refrain myself from trying it. These tiny grains are a gluten free alternative to food. Cooked quinoa seeds become fluffy and creamy yet maintain a slight crunch.

Before cooking it is advised to wash it thoroughly to reduce it’s bitter taste. Put it in a bowl and run it under water.

Quinoa can be roasted or boiled. It takes less time to cook in a pressure cooker but keep in mind to use less water to cook it thoroughly.

Quinoa can be used in smoothies and salads. It goes well with many types of food and can be prepared in many ways.

Growing children need more micronutrients than macronutrients. Micro nutrients are very essential in the brain development as well as in the development of immunity. There are increasing risks of obesity in children. Quinoa, is one grain which comes with all the essential nutrients to meet their needs. So, what are you waiting for? Go ahead and include it in your recipes to create some healthy and tasty food for your kids.

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When those sparkling eyes turned myopic

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Yesterday , we went for our daughter’s vision test. It was her routine check up for eye sight. But she was scared. She was scared not of the Doctor or the procedures as this is her third year with her spectacles but of her number being decreased further. “Mom,  what if the number increases? Does it mean that my specs will be bigger or thicker? Will I look ugly will a big fat set of spectacles?” She said worriedly.
Two years back, when she was in class one, her teacher called me to meet her. She told me that my daughter hasn’t been paying attention in the class and wasn’t completing her work. I was worried. I asked my daughter at home why she was doing so. She told me that she wasn’t able to see the board clearly from her last seat. We thought of consulting a specialist and getting her eyes tested. She was having a poor vision due to myopia. I was stunned, thinking of my daughter having to wear glasses at such a young age. I love her sparkling brown eyes but the thought of seeing those eyes behind spectacles was like watching a caged bird.
What was her reaction? Well, initially she was excited as she thought her dad looked smart in his glasses. Happily she went to the optician and chose a pink frame for herself but when she wore them for the first time and learnt that she will have to wear them all the time then she got a reality check. She was soon in tears. “Mom, I don’t look like Barbie anymore. I don’t look beautiful. What would my friends say?”
Even I felt like crying. “Isn’t there anything that we can do to improve her vision.” I asked my husband. He started surfing the net and looking for something that we could do to improve her vision.
Then one day, he got a book titled, “How to Improve Your Child’s Vision Naturally” by Janet Goodrich. The book suggests emotional and psychological ways for healing myopia. There are various imaginative games and exercises to help your child recover their eyesight. Here are a few excerpts from the book that I would like to share: 

1. The importance of healthy diet:-
We all know that a good balanced diet is extremely important, it is equally important for the eyes as well. “Proteins, vitamins and minerals compose the structure of living eyeballs. If an essential nutrient is missing or toxic substances are entering the body, developing vision can be affected. The brain processing input from the eyes and other senses, needs proper nutrition and plenty of oxygen.”
2. The role of oxygen:-
A good supply of oxygen to all our body parts is very important. Just as breathing exercises do tremendous good to our body, likewise it is important for our eyes and brain too. For that Janet suggests deep breathing, loud sighing and noisy yawning. According to her, “Your eyes give themselves a bath by yawning. Vision brightens up as if you had washed the world as well as your eyes.”
3. The benefits of sunlight:-
The light and warmth of sunlight provides tremendous benefits for our body and our eyes. “Sunlight is a natural antibiotic; it destroys certain bacteria, fungi and viruses… The sun’s warmth relaxes tight eye muscles.” It does not mean that one has to stare at the shining sun for long but one can sit in a shady area , keep the eyes closed and imagine it as a sunflower and imagining that there is a magical feather at the end of your nose. Draw an imaginary circle around it and rotate your head gently.
4. The saccadic motion of the eyes:-
Due to long hours of watching TV or engaging with other screens, the rapid flickering movement of eyes called saccadic motion is replaced with a stare which causes imperfect vision. To retrieve the saccadic motion, there is an exercise suggested in the book called “The Magic Nose Pencil”. Imagine that there is a magic pencil at the end of your nose, draw everything with your magic nose pencil, moving your head slightly. It is, as the book says, “our most important tool for breaking the stare and establishing or reestablishing a good habit of saccadic motion.”
5. Ball games:-
Another way of providing the saccadic motion to the eyes is playing with balls. Playing various indoor or outdoor games with different balls of different sizes provides fast flickering movements to the eyes. The movement of the balls itself produces saccadic motion of the eyes.
I have been reading and trying various methods and techniques suggested in the book in order to improve the eyesight of my daughter. Though she still wears spectacles but as parents we can only try whatever we can do to help her taking care of her eyes. The good news that we got in her eye check up yesterday was that her eye sight has been stable for the past two years.
I would like to request my readers to share their views and suggestions for helping our children in taking care of their eyes and vision.

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Celebrating The Uniqueness Every Child is blessed with

Every child is unique and is blessed with different qualities. Some children are friendlier, social and confident. They feel at ease even in the presence of complete strangers whereas there are others who would often keep to themselves and feel happier when they are at home doing the activities they like.
Everyone is born with different personality traits. It’s the way they are and the way they feel comfortable. The extroverts tend to gain more acceptance and popularity with their social skills and that is much more appreciated. On the other hand, the introverts take a long time to open up and find it difficult to exhibit their calibre and talents which tends to remain hidden inside them.
Being an introvert myself, I know how difficult it is to make friends and reach out to people. How uncomfortable and alienated I used to feel in the company of people. Even now I don’t have anybody to call as a friend but that is the way I am and that is the way how I feel happy. It’s about being comfortable in one’s own skin. In the absence of likeminded people, sometimes one finds a great company within oneself.
My two daughters are poles apart. The elder one is my rock star who happily greets everyone she meets in her way. Quite opposite to her is my little songbird, who sings her own songs happily at home. My rock star loves going outdoors whereas my song bird prefers staying indoors. I love both of them for they have their own luminosity.
There were times when, my little one would cry endlessly whenever we had to go out of the house even for an outing specifically for the kids. She would prefer playing alone in the park and avoid company. It started bothering me when it was time for her to get admission in school.
I took her to the day care of the play school I was planning for her. I took her there for two hours initially and stayed in the school. I helped her to get familiar with the school environment and the staff there. During the summer holidays, I enrolled both my girls in the summer camp of the same play school. My little one started feeling more confident and secured in the company of her sister.
After holidays, when I enrolled her in the play group of that school, she was completely comfortable and well adjusted. Gradually, with a lot of love and encouragement, she has become confident and open to people. Although, she feels happier at home but she has opened up and started making friends on her own. Now, when we take her to a new place, she takes some time initially but gradually becomes friendly.
This positive change in her makes pen down a few points which helped me in opening up and now helping my little song bird.

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1. Be involved with the child:
An introvert child will never ask for your company but it is not that they don’t want it either. They might be too shy to come to you. Be with them. Spend time with them in doing the activities of their choice. It helps them feel more confident and connected. It will help the child in getting his personal space at the same time he will bond with you.
2. Don’t humiliate them publicly or label them in front of anybody:
An introvert child will become more introvert and lose confidence if the elders make fun of him in public or start labelling him as “rude”, “shy guy”, “arrogant” or “introvert”. Appreciate them for being the way they are. He might be more talented than what you think. His being shy does not make him weak rather he has more strength to stand alone.
3. Never force the child to meet and greet others:
Give the child time to get to know and familiarise with new people and new situations. They just need a little more time than others in adapting to new situations. Help them in feeling comfortable to new surroundings and new people. It’s alright if they do not like to be kissed or hugged. Give them other options of greeting their elders. Help them familiarise in new surroundings by offering or showing them some familiar things.
4. Don’t let the child feel neglected:
Let the child feel that you love him and is proud of him for the way he is. You are with him, even if he doesn’t want to be among the strangers. Your constant love and support will help introvert children in coming out of their shells. Let them feel that you are all ears for them whenever they wish to express themselves.
5. Don’t criticise them:
Criticism and judgement is what they are afraid of and makes them shy away. Appreciation and positive encouragement is what they long for. Appreciate and encourage them even for their smallest achievement. Even if the child tried to speak a few words in the school function, he needs a big applause. For he had put a lot of effort to be on the stage and face the audience.

This support and understanding from my parents helped me a lot in becoming more confident and connecting with people. With the same love, support and encouragement, we have noticed a big difference in my little shy bird. She is becoming more confident, talkative and outgoing.
Do share with me your views and tips too to help an introvert child become friendlier.

This post is a part of the blog chain #MMM or #MondayMommyMoments. This post is in link up with my fellow bloggers Deeepa and Amrita.

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मेरी नानी की कहानी, मेरी मां की जु़बानी

यह कहानी मेरी नहीं, मेरी मां की है। आज की

इस कहानी में जज़्बात भी उनके हैं, और अल्फाज़ भी उनके।

इसलिए इस कहानी में मैंने कोई बदलाव नहीं किए। उम्मीद करती हूँ, आपको पसंद आएगी :

मेरी शादी हुई तो मुझे मां बाप से बिछड़ने का बहुत दुख था पर सुकून था कि मैं उसी शहर में हूँ तो आती जाती रहूंगी। मेरे पिताजी की सेहत ठीक नहीं रहती थी। हालांकि वो नौकरी भी करते थे। अच्छी पोस्ट पर भी थे, मेरी शादी के बाद मुझसे मिलने भी आते थे, मेरा कोई काम होता तो अवश्य करते।

कभी कभी जब मैं अकेले होती तो यह सोच कर घबरा जाती थी कि मेरे पिताजी की तबियत ठीक नहीं रहती। उनके बहुत करीब थी। उनकी याद आखोँ में आँसु ले आती। कुछ साल बाद, उनकी

तबियत और बिगड़ने लगी। अब मैं बैठे बैठे डर जाती कि अगर मेरे पिताजी को कुछ हो गया तो? मुझे लगता था कि मेरी दुनिया वहीं रुक जाएगी। और फिर दिन ….वही हुआ…

मेरे पिताजी दफ्तर गए और वहां उनकी तबीयत खराब हुई। उन्हें जल्द अस्पताल ले जाना पड़ा। शाम को अस्पताल से खबर मिली कि पिताजी मां को याद कर रहे हैं। मां उनसे मिलने अस्पताल गई। जब घर लौटी तो बोली, “मैं खाली हाथ आ गई”। मुझे समझ नहीं आया। तब पता चला कि मां को देखते ही पिताजी ने आखिरी सांस ली और चल बसे।

अब तक तो कुछ समझ नहीं आया। ऐसा झटका लगा कि बुद्धि ने काम करना बन्द कर दिया, किन्तु पिताजी की तेरहवीं पर जब मैंने मां को सीड़ियों से उतरते देखा तो एक मिनट के लिए सांस ही रुक गई। मैंने अपनी मां को सफेद साड़ी में बिल्कुल सादे और शांत रूप में देखा। मुझे जीवन का सबसे बड़ा झटका लगा जब मैने अपनी मां को इस रुप मे देखा। तब असली एहसास हुआ कि पिताजी नहीं रहे। मैं रो रो कर बेहाल थी। बस चिल्लाई जा रही थी, “यह ठीक नहीं हुआ, यह ठीक नहीं हुआ”

उस वक्त मां ने ही मुझे सम्भाला, बोली “यही जीवन की सच्चाई है इसे जितनी जल्दी समझ लेंगे उतना ही हम लोगों के लिए अच्छा है”।

मैं अपनी मां का वो शांत रुप देख कर बिल्कुल स्तब्ध थी किन्तु मुझे शक्ति भी मिली। जीवन की सबसे कड़वी सच्चाई का मां ने इतने सहज रुप से स्वीकार किया। मुझे अपनी मां पर गर्व भी हो रहा था। मेरी मां स्कूल में अध्यापिका थी और हम पांच बहने। पिताजी की मृत्यु के समय दो की शादी हुई थी और बाकियो की होनी थी। एक छोटी बहन तो बहुत ही छोटी थी। शायद उनको देखकर मां ने संयम रखा होगा। मां ने हिम्मत के साथ मेरी दोनों छोटी बहनों को पढा लिखा कर उनका ब्याह किया। मुझे आज भी याद है, सबसे छोटी बहन के ब्याह के बाद मेरी मां पहली बार रोई थी कि सब मुझे छोड़ कर चले गए। उनका मतलब पिताजी से था। तब मुझे लगा कि मां ने कितने सालों तक वह दर्द अपने अन्दर छुपा कर रखा था ताकि उसकी बेटियाँ कमजो़र ना बनें।

आज भी मां की वो सीख याद है, “जीवन की कड़वी सच्चाईयों का सामना हिम्मत से करना चाहिए। जि़दगी तो चलती ही रहेगी। हिम्मत रखेंगे तो बड़ी से बड़ी जि़म्मेदारी भी निभा पाएंगे”। मुझे एक बात का एहसास भी हुआ कि मंजिल पर पहुंच कर ही थकान का एहसास होता है, और कहीं ना कहीं यह खुशी भी होती है कि हमने अपनी जि़म्मेदारियां अच्छे से निभाई।

यही है मां की सीख- तकलीफ मे घबराना नहीं चाहिए, हिम्मत से काम लेना चाहिए। सब समस्याएं समय के साथ हल हो जाती हैं।  

 

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