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DIY Handmade Toys Ideas For Kids

Kids love toys and it doesn’t matter how many of them they have, they still keep asking for more. Toys have a big role in their development. Each and every toy has a very special place in our children’s heart.

I remember how in school we were taught to make handmade toys, toys made out of rags, old socks, and old material lying around the house and knitted toys. I thought of making the same with my kids. The project would be interesting for sure, it will bring out their imagination and creativity plus we can have a good craft to do over the weekend.

When I suggested my kids that we can make our toys at home, they could not believe at first. For them toys can only bought from the market. So, we decided that we will make our own toys at home and have lots and lots of fun while making them and playing with them.

Old Socks Toys

Toys made out of old socks are very simple and easy to make. For this we used old socks, markers, rags, material to stuff inside like old foam, sponge pieces, cotton, rags etc.

 

For this doll, we took two pair of socks. One sock to make the body and one for the dress. Here is how we made it:

We took an old piece of cloth of skin colour, kept some foam in it and gave it the shape of a ball. I stitched it to make the face. My daughter made the features with a marker.

For the body, we took a sock, cut the part which covers the leg. I stitched it from below and let the kids fill it with foam pieces. After filling the sock piece, I stitched the head and body together. I cut the remaining piece of sock into half, filled it with foam and stitched it to form the arms. I joined the arms with the body. My daughters had a great time in dressing the doll with rags.

 

My daughters are crazy about Peppa Pig and George Pig. They asked me whether we can make them too.

We tried to make Mr Dinosaur with an old sock.

For this, we traced the drawing of Mr Dinosaur on a sheet of paper. I cut the socks in the shape of Mr Dinosaur and stitched it. We filled it up with cotton wool. We used old black cloth pieces to give the shape of arms and legs, filled it up with cotton and joined it. The teeth were made by using laces and eyes with a black button.

How about a mom and a baby doll? We used an old cardboard box and covered it with cloth to make our own doll house.

Hand knitted Toys and Finger Puppets

When my daughters showed their toys to their grandmother, she joined the fun too and made hand knitted finger puppets and toys for them.

These are the various knitted finger puppets for our finger family song. Can you see that there is George Pig too and Nariyal Anna from Art Attack? Not to forget Kung Foo Panda.

 

These hand knitted dolls can be used as finger puppets as well as any other dolls to play with.

 

We made Peppa Pig too. The knitting part can be done by an adult and stuffing part can be done by the kids.

Rag Toys

What to do when you have pieces of old cloth lying around? We made rag toys. Just cut the cloth piece in the shape of the toy you want and fill it up with cloth pieces. With a few stitches, it’s done.

 

 

Benefits of Home Made Toys

I must say we had hours of fun and learning too while making these toys. There are several benefits of this activity:

  1. Children can use them as puppets or like toys for make belief playing. We can also make our own toys for storytelling.
  2. These toys are very safe to use. There is no hazardous material used in it. These are not plastic. Even if the child puts it in his mouth, there is no harm.
  3. These are very cost friendly. Toys these days are very expensive and make a hole in our pockets. Home-made toys save money.
  4. These are also a good craft activity for kids. Kids not only enjoy making them but also learn a lot.
  5. Toy making saves plenty of screen time. Kids get involved in a constructive activity and get some time off from the screens.
  6. Kids lean to value and save money. They get to learn that they can save money and buying innumerable toys leads to a waste of money.
  7. These toys are very environment friendly. Plastic toys are extremely hazardous. We are extremely worried while using plastic toys as kids might put them in their mouth and also they are unsafe for the environment. These toys are biodegradable also based on the principles of the 4 R’s- Refuse, Reduce, Reuse and Recycle.

 

So, go ahead and enjoy this fun activity with your kid during the Christmas holidays. No more getting bored or being glued to the TV. This activity is sure to give you endless fun and learning too.

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Celebrating The Uniqueness Every Child is blessed with

Every child is unique and is blessed with different qualities. Some children are friendlier, social and confident. They feel at ease even in the presence of complete strangers whereas there are others who would often keep to themselves and feel happier when they are at home doing the activities they like.
Everyone is born with different personality traits. It’s the way they are and the way they feel comfortable. The extroverts tend to gain more acceptance and popularity with their social skills and that is much more appreciated. On the other hand, the introverts take a long time to open up and find it difficult to exhibit their calibre and talents which tends to remain hidden inside them.
Being an introvert myself, I know how difficult it is to make friends and reach out to people. How uncomfortable and alienated I used to feel in the company of people. Even now I don’t have anybody to call as a friend but that is the way I am and that is the way how I feel happy. It’s about being comfortable in one’s own skin. In the absence of likeminded people, sometimes one finds a great company within oneself.
My two daughters are poles apart. The elder one is my rock star who happily greets everyone she meets in her way. Quite opposite to her is my little songbird, who sings her own songs happily at home. My rock star loves going outdoors whereas my song bird prefers staying indoors. I love both of them for they have their own luminosity.
There were times when, my little one would cry endlessly whenever we had to go out of the house even for an outing specifically for the kids. She would prefer playing alone in the park and avoid company. It started bothering me when it was time for her to get admission in school.
I took her to the day care of the play school I was planning for her. I took her there for two hours initially and stayed in the school. I helped her to get familiar with the school environment and the staff there. During the summer holidays, I enrolled both my girls in the summer camp of the same play school. My little one started feeling more confident and secured in the company of her sister.
After holidays, when I enrolled her in the play group of that school, she was completely comfortable and well adjusted. Gradually, with a lot of love and encouragement, she has become confident and open to people. Although, she feels happier at home but she has opened up and started making friends on her own. Now, when we take her to a new place, she takes some time initially but gradually becomes friendly.
This positive change in her makes pen down a few points which helped me in opening up and now helping my little song bird.

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1. Be involved with the child:
An introvert child will never ask for your company but it is not that they don’t want it either. They might be too shy to come to you. Be with them. Spend time with them in doing the activities of their choice. It helps them feel more confident and connected. It will help the child in getting his personal space at the same time he will bond with you.
2. Don’t humiliate them publicly or label them in front of anybody:
An introvert child will become more introvert and lose confidence if the elders make fun of him in public or start labelling him as “rude”, “shy guy”, “arrogant” or “introvert”. Appreciate them for being the way they are. He might be more talented than what you think. His being shy does not make him weak rather he has more strength to stand alone.
3. Never force the child to meet and greet others:
Give the child time to get to know and familiarise with new people and new situations. They just need a little more time than others in adapting to new situations. Help them in feeling comfortable to new surroundings and new people. It’s alright if they do not like to be kissed or hugged. Give them other options of greeting their elders. Help them familiarise in new surroundings by offering or showing them some familiar things.
4. Don’t let the child feel neglected:
Let the child feel that you love him and is proud of him for the way he is. You are with him, even if he doesn’t want to be among the strangers. Your constant love and support will help introvert children in coming out of their shells. Let them feel that you are all ears for them whenever they wish to express themselves.
5. Don’t criticise them:
Criticism and judgement is what they are afraid of and makes them shy away. Appreciation and positive encouragement is what they long for. Appreciate and encourage them even for their smallest achievement. Even if the child tried to speak a few words in the school function, he needs a big applause. For he had put a lot of effort to be on the stage and face the audience.

This support and understanding from my parents helped me a lot in becoming more confident and connecting with people. With the same love, support and encouragement, we have noticed a big difference in my little shy bird. She is becoming more confident, talkative and outgoing.
Do share with me your views and tips too to help an introvert child become friendlier.

This post is a part of the blog chain #MMM or #MondayMommyMoments. This post is in link up with my fellow bloggers Deeepa and Amrita.

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Raise Independent Kids with These 5 Simple Tips

Our children are handed to us as tiny little cute bundles looking so innocent and delicate. We love to do everything for them and become so busy with them that we just don’t know when the time flies by and our kids start growing up. Our love of doing everything for them becomes a habit both for us and for our kids.

When the kids grow up, they often refuse to do the things on their own which they are capable of doing. It is important to raise them in a way where they become self-sufficient and self-reliant. It is important for us to understand that one day, our little nestlings will be leaving our nest to fly in the sky.

It requires a lot of patience, love and understanding to raise independent kids. They will throw tantrums, there will be power struggles, a lot of mess but in the end it’s all worth it.

So, how can we do it?

Here are five simple steps to make them independent:

1.    Let them fail and learn

Let the children try to do their things on their own. They will stumble, they will fall. They might do it all wrong but it’s okay. We, mothers, often jump up when our kids are making a mistake while doing something on their own. It’s okay. Let them. Hold yourself back. For example, while getting water for themselves, they might spill it. The spilled water can be mopped but once you stop them, chances are they will never try it again.

2.    Don’t let them get disheartened

Even if they are unable to do something on their own, it’s okay. Appreciate their efforts and encourage them to do it again. Don’t point out that they could not do it instead highlight the fact that they tried.

3.    Help them when they face a problem

When they get stuck in the middle of the task they were doing, help them. Once, twice may be many times. But limit yourself till the point where they are facing problem. Once their problem is resolved, let them do it themselves.

4.    Make things simplified

If we want our kids to learn to be independent, we have to create an atmosphere where they can do things on their own. For example, if we want them to dress up on their own, then we must keep their cupboards organised in a way which they can operate easily. The clothes should be within their reach and kept systematically for the little hands to pick.

5.    Role modelling

Children learn by imitating and watching. Try to role model every activity for them in order to enable them to learn. For example, while brushing their teeth allow them to watch you and brush their teeth while standing next to you. They will learn by watching you do it.

Hope these tips work for you. Do write to me how you are teaching your kids to become independent. I would love to hear your stories.

This post was published on mycity4kids : https://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/my-kids-my-wings/article/raise-independent-kids-with-these-5-simple-tips

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Touch and Physical Affection is important for our children too

We lay a lot of stress on health, diet and education of our children. As a parent, we have innumerable concerns for our kids. As they get older, many other aspects of their developmental areas start taking priorities in our daily routines. But one thing which sounds simple and often takes a back seat is the power of our loving touch. 

The need to be touched, caressed and cuddled is as basic as our need for food. Several studies have shown that more nurturing the mother, the more intelligent, confident and secure the offspring becomes. Touch has enormous powers over a child’s healthy development.

These days Kangaroo baby care is a very common term. It is especially done for the premature babies. Babies are held upright against the caretaker’s chest. The stable body temperature of the caretaker helps the baby to keep warm. The skin to skin contact helps in the growth of the baby.

For infants too, it is important to be held especially when he is crying. Babies get soothed, comforted and feel secure when held closely in arms. They smile when they are cuddled and bond well with the caretaker. Baby wearing is also a very common practice these days. People prefer to carry their babies in a baby sling since it helps the baby feel secure and strengthens the bond with their parents.

For older children too, touch has enormous benefits on their development. A growing child is also struggling to learn various things. The child is at a stage where he is faced with many new things and is exposed to different environments. At this stage he is learning to comprehend new words but more than words one thing that he can easily comprehend is the power of touch.

Positive loving touch can be provided in many ways to an older child. These include:-

1. A gentle hug

2. A pat on the back

3. A loving stroke on the cheeks

4. Holding hands while walking

5. Giving a high five

6. Cuddle at bed time

7. Playful tickling

There can be many ways in which we can show physical affection to our child. These gentle touches goes a long way in order to connect and bond with our children for a long term. It helps the child in feeling reassured, loved and cared for. Even in the middle of an argument extend yourself and hug the child, it will help in calming and soothing himself. Loving touches go a long way in building self esteems and brain development. They help in building stronger emotional selves. So, go on and give your child a big bear hug.

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5 Easy Ice Cream Recipes to Chill the Kids This Summer

Summers have started and so does kids’ demand to ask for an ice cream every now and then. As soon as they jump out of their school bus, they begin asking for an ice cream after spotting the nearby ice cream seller. I am sure there must be many moms like me who must be strictly against artificial colours and preservatives in foods. In almost every visit to the doctor, my paediatrician always advises me to give preservatives free food to my kids as they do more harm than good. So, I always avoid ice cream from markets. But what to do when kids become adamant on having an ice cream after coming from school? We can’t say no to them every time. What’s the solution then? Make them at home!

So, here are 5 recipes of ice creams that are extremely easy to make, take less than 10 minutes of time, very healthy and of course yummy.

1) Banana Ice cream

Ingredients:

1 Ripe Banana

Powdered Sugar

Full Cream Milk

Method

Peel and cut the banana into thin slices. Keep it in an airtight container and freeze it for two hours. Put the banana slices in a blender and blend them nicely. Add a glass of full cream milk and powdered sugar according to taste. Blend it well. Pour the mixture in ice cream mould and freeze it for 4-6 hours.

2) Chocolate Ice cream


Ingredients

Cocoa powder

A cup of fresh homemade cream

Powdered Sugar

Condensed milk (optional)

Method

Take the cream and blend it. Add powdered sugar and two table spoons of cocoa powder. Mix it well. You can add condensed milk if you like. The mixture should be blended well. Pour it in ice cream mould and freeze it for 4-6 hours.

3) Mango Ice cream

Ingredients

1 Ripe mango

A cup of fresh homemade cream

Powdered sugar

Condensed milk (optional)

Method

Peel the mango and cut it in small pieces. Take it in a blender and blend it till it becomes a smooth paste. Add powdered sugar and cream. Mix it well. You can also add condensed milk. Blend it thoroughly. Freeze it for 4-6 hours.

4) Oreo Ice cream

Ingredients

Oreo biscuits

A cup of fresh homemade cream

Powdered sugar

Condensed milk ( Optional)

Method

Take Oreo biscuits in a blender and crush them roughly. Don’t crush them too much to make a powder. Take them out of the blender and put it in a bowl. Take cream and powdered sugar in the blender and blend them till they become a smooth paste. You can add condensed milk if you want and blend thoroughly. Now put it in the bowl containing crushed Oreo biscuits. Mix everything well. Put it in ice cream mould and freeze it for 6 hours.

5) Strawberry ice cream

Ingredients

1 Cup strawberries

Powdered sugar

1Cup fresh homemade cream

Condensed milk (optional)

Method

Cut the strawberries into small pieces. Put it in a pan and cook them till they become soft. Add powdered sugar in it. Let it cool down. In a blender, take cream and condensed milk. Blend it till it becomes smooth. Now, mix strawberry in it. Put it in ice cream mould and let it freeze for 4-6 hours.

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My Daughters My Pride

Why do I need to wear necklaces,

When I have the arms of my daughters around,

Why do I need any danglers,

When I have their chitter chatter about,

Why do I need any rings,

When I have their tiny fingers holding mine.

 

The two beautiful daughters of mine

Are far more precious than any diamond shine,

I don’t ever need any pearls,

I need not to wear any jewels,

Their sparkling smiles are my biggest treasure,

Their wonderful plays are my greatest pleasure.

 

One by one I hold them nearer,

So what if the world demands “the better”,

They are the better SUN than any SON,

Their talents are measurable to none,

They give so much love my heart can’t hold’

So pious are their hearts made of gold.

 

Easily I would say it to the world,

I am proud of my daughters,

Let the hanging heads mourn for “the good”,

Daughters are the blessing bestowed on you,

Thus, make merry and become joyous,

Be thankful to God for bringing His heiress.

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The Maths Scare in Children: Causes and Remedies

 

I think all of you here, must agree with me when I say that Maths is not everybody’s cup of tea. As kids, many of us would have found Maths as a ‘boring’ subject. The number would often get jumbled up in our minds. And when it comes to solving word problems, very few hands would be raised in class.

For this very reason, we now have many mental maths classes coming up. As parents today, enrolling our kids in some maths class comes on top of our list. Hiring a tutor for maths has become almost necessary today because we feel that it is a difficult subject. It might be for the simple reason that we as kids never liked maths as a subject and as parents now we find it a little difficult to teach this subject to our children.

But why does this happen? Why do children begin to develop a hatred and at times even a fear for this subject? What are the reasons for it?

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  1. Mathematics is abstract

Children cannot see mathematics when it comes to solving mathematical problems. Children need to visualise something clearly before liking it.

  1. Teaching Methodology

The conventional system of teaching this maths lacks innovation. Students find it boring and their interest level begins to go down.

  1. Conversion of word problems into equations

Children find it difficult to convert word problems into equations. Without any kind of visualisation, children fail to understand the concepts thoroughly and often end up mugging them just like any other subject.

  1. Poor command over tables

Most of the time, children do not learn the tables properly. It makes it difficult for them to perform even the simplest calculations. As a result, they take a lot of time in solving mathematical problems which makes a simple paper difficult for them.

  1. Lack of interest in trainers

A common mistake that we as parents make is to admit our own dislike for the subject in front of the kids. We often tell them that maths is a difficult subject, they cannot teach them maths as they themselves feared it and never scored well in the subject. Children immediately start thinking maths as a difficult subject.

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So, what can we as parents do to help our children. developing an interest in this subject. Here are some possible ways to do so:

  1. Parents should play board games with their children. Board game which are based on numbers help in creating an interest in numbers. Children begin to see numbers as fun.
  2. Children should play constructive games based on problem solving like puzzles instead of any destructive or war based games.Preschool-lego-resized
  3. Parents should play maths based games with their children to make them number friendly. When children see their parents as enjoying numbers, they start enjoying it too.
  4. Parents should never express their own fears or dislike of the subject in front of the kids.
  5. Parents should themselves try to identify the problem areas of the children in the subject rather than merely focusing on grades or homework.
  6. Parents should take an interest in their children’s studies rather than simply relying on coaching classes. They should try to sit with them during their study time and help them in solving problems.

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Mathematics is a subject that requires logical thinking. It cannot be learned by way of rote memory. If we try to adopt the right attitude towards it and try to adopt creative ways of teaching it, our children will never find it boring or scary.

This post was first published on mycity4kids : https://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/my-kids-my-wings/article/the-maths-scare-in-children-causes-and-remedies

 

 

 

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Make Summer Days the Days of Fun Learning With These Fun Activities

Art and Craft Activities for Summer Holidays

It’s a big challenge to keep our little ones busy at home. Children these days are very smart and more aware than their previous generation. They are so active and bubbling with energy that it’s a real challenge to make them sit at a place for some time. A teacher by profession and a stay at home mom by choice, I always found art and craft activities as my best pal to keep the children busy in their free time both in classroom and at home.

Let me share a few such activities which we can enjoy and help our little ones learn at home: –

  1. Making “My Own Little Books”-

When my daughter was three years old, we created our very own book of textures by which I taught her not only about textures but also inculcated in her a love for books. We took small pieces of different materials like cotton cloth, aluminium foil, card board, wool, silk cloth and more such things having a different feel. We pasted them in separate sheets of paper and wrote all the words that sprang up in our minds under their names. For example- wool: shaggy, coarse, warm etc. We wrote words which related to their look and feel. We decorated the sheets and tied them together with ribbon.

This activity helped her in various ways. It helped in increasing her vocabulary, her knowledge related to various textures and materials, her creativity was enhanced and it directed her energy in the construction of an object as opposed to destruction which kids usually do.

Like this can be My Book of Birds, Insects, animals, numbers etc. In creating My Book of Birds and Insects, we included several other activities like picture colouring of birds, join the dots to make a bird, match the columns, odd one out etc. We pasted pictures of birds, their wings and learnt about their types. The best part of these activity is that it benefits a child in multiple ways.              

  1. Creating “My Best Mate- Dice”-

In this activity, we made a pair of dice. One can use a big cardboard box or paste cardboard sheets together to form a cube. Paste coloured paper on each side. With a coloured sketch pen write numbers or cut coloured paper in the shape of numbers and paste. Write the numbers from 0-5 on one dice and numbers 5-9 and 0 on the other dice. Various number games can be played with the help of these homemade dice. They can be used for teaching numbers, counting and recognition, big and small numbers, throw the dice and jump or clap according to that number, which number comes before and which comes after. It provides a fun activity at the same time increases their constructive abilities. One can think of more number games with these dice.

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  1. Numbering the stairs-

Our house was at the second floor, we numbered all the stairs with paints. Learning numbers was so much fun with those numbered stairs. Any number of games could be played on those stairs. Of course, we need to be very careful while playing on the stairs but if played carefully and cautiously it can be great fun. Take a ball and tell the child to throw it on a specific number, go to this number or that, etc. If the child is old enough to be careful on the stairs then one can teach other mathematical concepts like forward counting, backward counting. The cardboard dice can also be used to play on numbered stairs. For example, throw the dice and tell the child to go to that number. Tell the child to do some funny action like clap his hands or roar like a lion as he reaches that specific numbered stair.

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These activities help in keeping the child away from the gadgets, it also helps in his all-round development, they allow learning by doing, provide concept clarity and fun while they learn. Although, it does take a lot of effort on a mother’s part but it does benefit the child in more than one way. I enjoyed doing these activities with my daughter and she had fun too. They also helped in building up our bond. On my part, I was teaching her; on her part, she was playing with me.

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Dealing With Aggression in Kids

Children these days are very smart and intelligent. Inspite of their intelligence they are showing highly aggressive behaviours. As a mother, it is really painful to see your little bud turning out to be a defiant. Motherhood is the most beautiful gift of God.

We keep thinking about and analysing our mothering skill. We try our best to make our children good human beings. It is our constant endeavour to inculcate good values in our kids.

Our jobs become tougher when our child is a little more difficult to handle than others. It becomes very challenging when our child displays aggression or defiance. We keep telling them to do something and they will pick up a fight instead of completing the task with obedience. It leaves us defeated when we get everything like yelling, backfiring, arguing, anger but not obedience.

Think of a scenario like this: the child comes back from school, throws the bag in one corner, the shoes go flying and land in a thud. The socks are rolled down and thrown on the sofa. The belt is thrown on the floor and after creating all the mess the child sits in front of the television. How will you react in a situation like this?

The immediate impulse of the mother is to shout and scold the child to put the things properly at their place, wash his hands and face and have lunch. What will be the child’s reaction? He would either increase the volume of the television or start yelling back. Result? More yelling and backfiring. In the end, the mother gets defeated.

I would not say that I have won my battle. I am trying too. Parenting is about trials and errors. Some trials bring out positive results while some prove to fail. I would like to share here a few of my trials which have succeeded.

a) Acknowledgement and appreciation

Always acknowledge and appreciate even the smallest good effort of your child. Don’t miss out any opportunity to tell him or her that he or she is wonderful for he or she truly is.

b) Stick to your word

If you have asked your child to put away his or her own things at a place then reminding every 5 minutes is futile. It will only result in arguments and complaining.

c) Encourage better decision making

The child is strong willed. He or she knows what he or she wants. There is no point in telling him or her again and again. Do make him or her understand his or her choice. Let the child know what he or she is capable of doing and encourage him or her to make right choices.

d) Positive reinforcement is a must

Along with appreciation, your expressions matter too. This means that while you are encouraging a good behaviour, you must reinforce it with the excitement in you tone and enthusiasm on your face. This lets the child know that he is getting appreciation.

e) Justified punishment

Punishment should not make the child feel as if he or she has done a crime. The punishments should be justified to the extent that they realise their mistake and learn out of it. It should not make him or her feel demoralised. Remember punishments might turn them more defiant and defiant and fearless.

f) Rewards

If you follow the rule of punishment, then have a reward system too. Sometimes, even the toughest child learns out of reward than from punishment. Rewards make the defiant more confident of their accomplishments. They feel pleased and encouraged with rewards.

g) Keep calm

Yelling back doesn’t control the situation, instead it will only worsen it. The more calm and peace you show, the more the child will learn to deal with his anger and emotions with peace.

Each child is different and every parent has his or her own way of dealing. It might seem hard and difficult but one should never give up. If one way doesn’t work then keep trying other ways.

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5 Reasons Why I Decided to Give My Elder One a Sibling

Only those who have siblings must be knowing whay it is like to have one. A sibling is the best gift parents can give to their child. Growing up with a sibling fills our childhood with colourful memories. We could never feel alone in the company of our sibling. Whether a brother or a sister, younger or elder, time spent with our siblings always remains special. Imagine how your summer holidays must have gone in the absence of a sibling. The nights would have missed those chatters and giggles, beds would have missed those pillow fights, so many toys and nobody to fight for them, nobody to make us cry and laugh without any reason. It’s a different bond that you share with your siblings.
When my elder one was born, I decided not to have another child as I had got scared of pregnancy and delivery. When she was in kindergarten and started observing that many of her friends had siblings but she had none. She would often complain that she felt lonely a home and how she did not have anybody at home to play with whereas all her friends had their brothers or sisters at home. It was then that I realised that how selfish I was. I was only thinking of my convenience and robbing her off of one of the most beautiful relationship. It is a relationship which I have always cherished but she could not. That made me change my decision. She made me realise how wrong I was. Glad that I changed my decision.
Here is why I feel a child should have a sibling:
1. Best Buddies

No matter what the age difference is, siblings always make the best of friends. They are there whenever the other needs them. Nobody else can understand you better than your siblings. Sometimes it’s even more than your parents. The way one can share their thoughts and feelings with one’s sibling, one cannot share with anybody else.
2. Emotional support
Sometimes when we feel that we have a generation gap with our parents and they won’t understand us or when there is a difference of opinion with our parents; our siblings always come for our rescue. They provide us strength and form our emotional cushion. They help in bridging the gap with our parents.
3. Learning to share
A child never gets to learn how to share when he is alone. When the child gets a sibling, he learns to share everything from toys, books, room as also the love of his parents. This makes a child less possessive. The child becomes more social and starts sharing among his friends.
4. Starts learning on his own
Children learn very fast from each other. When it comes to doing summer projects, your elder sibling is your best help. Whether it is about studies, learning lessons, building vocabulary or hanging down from monkey ladders, your sibling will teach you unlike any other and provide help like nobody does.
5. Another parent
For the younger child, the elder one is almost like a parent. the elder sibling takes care of his or her younger one like a second mother. The elder ones are usually so protective and caring towards their younger siblings, that during their growing up years they don’t even feel the need of their parents. Very often when the parents are busy, two children in the company of each other do not feel the absence of their parents. The younger one feels secured in the company of the elder sibling.
 
For parents these days, it is often difficult to go in for a second child. We find it difficult to give time to the kids and there are other factors which make it extremely difficult to have more than one child. But if we see it from the perspective of a child, we will see how lonely they feel these days. Parents are more and more busy these days with their careers, family set up is getting smaller day by day. Neighbourhood play mates are also not there these days. In the absence of parents and friends who is there for a child? How will the child make memories? Memories of running after their siblings, memories of sharing thoughts with our siblings, memories of family outings, we have plentiful with our siblings. Why not our children?