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5 Tips to Teach Kids About How to Save Water

pexels-photo-346885.jpegWe are celebrating Earth Day this week. Just as we have started realising the importance of conservation of our natural environment and taking various steps around it, it is equally important to make kids understand it also. Children are the future of this world. It is more important for them to learn and follow the steps towards saving their environment.

Water is the most important resource and kids love to play with water. However, in this natural tendency, they tend to waste a lot of water. It is important to take necessary steps around their playing with water which should ensure that there is minimum wastage and maximum enjoyment also.

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Tips to save water for kids

1.   Kids love to play while taking a bath. They love making bubbles and splashing water here and there. While giving kids a bath. Instead of giving them bath in a shower can use a tub filled with water. After bathing the child, the water can be used for washing toilets or flushing.

2.   While brushing and washing their hands, they tend to leave the tap running for and play in water. We can make them understand that how it leads to wastage of water and instead keep a bucket full of water in the bathroom for washing their hands or brushing.

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3.   Children drink less water at a time. If we give them a glass full of water, they leave half of it. We can keep a tumbler or a separate bottle for them and encourage them to drink from it. If they leave water in a glass, encourage them to use that water for the plants.

4.   A lot of water is discarded by RO water purifiers. We can collect that water and keep it in a bucket. Let kids use that water for watering the plants or flushing purposes.

5.   Tell them about various ways of recycling or reusing water. While washing pulses and vegetables, we can show them that water can be collected in a separate utensil after washing the pulses and vegetables and can be used for various other washing or cleaning purposes. 

Water is important for everyone and we need to save every drop of it. If we teach our kids about saving water right from the beginning, they develop the right habits to save every single drop of it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Go Stylish This Summers with Divatress

Disclaimer : This is a sponsored post. The views and opinions expressed are entirely mine

I had become very tired of my looks and was looking for some change. Having worked as a hairstylist myself and been in the beauty industry for more than a decade, I am extremely conscious about the health of my hair and avoid getting chemical treatments done on my hair.

Hair are a very important part of beauty and a good hairstyle goes a long way in making your style statement. Also, at the same time, we easily become tired of carrying the same hairstyle for a long time. Especially during the wedding season, when one has to attend a number of functions, we need a new hair style for every function. While surfing the net and looking for some new hairstyling options, I came across Divatress.com. Divatress, is a company that sells thousands of wigs and hair care products.

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The idea of hair braiding and trying different braids and curls really struck with me. I always find curls and braids more fascinating since I have straight hair. They make the hair look thicker, voluminous and more glamorous. But braiding or curling your own hair is really time consuming. Divatress offer crochet braids hair which can be easily installed in your own hair. They merge in the hair beautifully and look absolutely natural. 

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Why Crochet Braids

1.  Easy to use-

        Crochet braids can be easily installed in your own  hair with the help of a crochet needle.

2.  Less time consuming-

It takes less time than braiding your own natural hair.

3.   Variety of hairstyles-

There is a huge variety of crochet braids ranging from pre-braided and twisted-style to wavy and curly styles along with different colour options too.

4.   Hassle free hairstyles-

Crochet braid is completely hassle free way of changing your hairstyles.

5.   Safe for hair-

There is no chemical treatment or heat treatment involved in the process. So, you can have any colour or any kinds of curls in your hair without having to worry about the hair getting damaged.

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So, whether you are a stay at home mom and looking for some change in your hairstyle or are a professional who needs to change her looks every now and then, go ahead for crochet braids hair and look glamorous this summer.  Crochet braids hair is for everybody who wants to experiment with their looks and is looking for a change in hairstyle.

 

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Stay at home mom vs. working mom: Neighbourhood speaks

Being a woman is difficult. At every point in time a woman has to take some real difficult decisions and make some really difficult choices. One of these major decisions is whether to continue one’s career or not after having kids. Sometimes the decision is entirely one’s own and sometimes it is circumstantial. Whatever it might be, but it’s really unfair to be judgemental and pass harsh comments without knowing about the real reason behind.
I was a working woman when my elder one was born and continued my work for fairly longer period. But after the birth of my second one, I gave up since it was difficult for me to create a fair balance. I don’t have any regrets now and neither I am going to dwell upon it for past is past. What I am going to talk about is a really funny incident which happened with me recently.
I was visiting my mum this week and took my kids to a nearby park in the morning. While my kids were enjoying themselves on the swings, one of my mum’s old friends saw me and came to meet me. She greeted me smilingly and asked about my well being.
She continued and asked me, “So, what are you doing these days? Are you doing anything or simply sitting at home doing nothing? Why did you give up your profession despite being so qualified? You are wasting your education and all the money your parents spent on your education.” She then continued by saying, “you must learn from our mistakes. I was a teacher but left my job for my kids and now the same kids ask me that why you not did anything. You know even your own kids consider you worthless if you are not working. It is extremely important for a woman to work for it develops the mind.”

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She went on and on giving me this very valuable piece of advice while I kept questioning her remarks in my mind.
This is extremely a strange how people perceive a stay at home mother as. First of all, it is considered as a waste of education and qualification along with the ‘money’ that parents’ spend on educating their daughters. Does it really so? Does education ever gets wasted? That means we should not be educating our daughters because if they choose to stay at home after having kids, the ‘money’ and the ‘degrees’ will get wasted.
Secondly, a woman who is not ‘working’ as in the professional terms or has a job outside the house is doing ‘nothing’ and sitting idle all day long. Hmm!
Is that so? Then who is managing the house, taking care of kids, their health, education, co-curricular activities, so on and so forth?

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Third, a job is necessary for the development of mind. Okay! I definitely never knew that!
Last but not the least, since the conversation was pretty long, “kids consider a stay at home mom as worthless or do not value her.” Again, a point of disagreement there. If a woman is educated and strong, nobody can dare to consider her worthless. For when she values herself strongly, people’s reaction doesn’t matter and she definitely knows how to handle her kids.
My point is that I have been a working mom as well as a stay at home. I do think that to take a decision in either ways is tough. But in the end, she knows what will work best for her family and if she decides either ways she must be respected and supported for it.

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Best for Baby, Best for Mama: Mama Earth Product Review  

A mother’s body under goes many changes during pregnancy and after delivery. All these changes adversely affect our skin. The stretch marks and uneven skin tone due to lack of sleep and other reasons are two major visible signs of all these changes. For this mama earth has brought some very useful products which help to deal with them in a most natural way.


Mama Earth Essential Body Oil
During pregnancy our skin becomes very itchy and stretchy which leaves stretch marks after delivery. To reduce stretchiness and itchiness of the skin during pregnancy, mama earth essential body oil proves to be very helpful.
Its key ingredients like Sea buckthorn oil, passion fruit, almond oil, olive oil, mulberry extract, jojoba oil, argan oil, green tea oil, lavender oil, geranium oil and vitamin E oil are extremely beneficial for the skin. It does not have mineral oils and is paraben free.
It can be used from the second trimester onwards to prevent stretch marks after delivery.


Bye Bye Blemishes
Worried about dark spots and uneven skin tone? Mama earth brings to you, Bye Bye Blemishes Cream for correcting uneven skin tone and dark spots. It helps in reducing pigmentation by restricting the melanin deposits which appears as dark spots on the face. It is anti-bacterial and anti-fungal.
Its key ingredients are: mulberry extract, shea butter, lavender oil, olea europaea fruit oil, daisy flower extract and hydrogenated olive oil.
Use liberally on freshly cleaned skin twice a day and a visible difference can be noticed within a few days.


Mama Earth Milky Soft Face Cream for Babies
Mama Earth’s milky soft face cream for babies helps in keeping dryness at bay. It takes care of the baby’s delicate skin in a most natural way. It moisturises the skin deeply and prevents dryness by forming a skin barrier. It is also helpful in dealing with skin eczema, chapped and dry skin.
Its key ingredients are almond oil, coconut oil, cocoa butter, olive oil, glycerine, shea butter, sesame oil, cocoa butter, murumuru butter, lavender oil and milk protein.
All these ingredients are extremely beneficial in keeping the skin soft and supple. Also, it is dermatologically tested and does not contain any harmful chemicals.
Where can you buy these?
Mama Earth products can be bought from their official site: https://mamaearth.in/

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Mama Earth Easy Tummy Roll On and After Bite Roll on : Product Review

I must say, every time, my kiddo sees a new mama earth product, she runs after it and becomes excited to use it. She loves to see the cute baby animals on its bottles and knows it is something for her. She adores the fragrance of mama earth products and loves to use them. For me, it is my trusted brand now.

This time mama earth has come up with the solution of two very common problems of babies that makes every mother easily worried:

1. Colic

2. Insect bite

Mama Earth Easy Tummy Roll On

Every mother knows how painful it is to see her baby crying and unable to sleep at night due to colic. Colic is very common in babies. I used to keep asafoetida handy and apply it around the navel of my baby by mixing it in water and making a paste. It’s a common home remedy that works well most of the time.

Mama Earth Easy Tummy Roll On has Olive Oil, Hing oil, Dill seed oil, fennel oil, peppermint oil and ginger oil as its key ingredients. When babies get colic, all one has to do it to gently rub the roll on around the navel. It provides relief in no time to the baby.

The roll on bottle is very easy to carry and can be easily kept in the diaper bags. It is very handy and easy to use.

It is 100% natural and does not contain any chemicals or alcohol.

Mama Earth after Bite Roll On

No mother likes to see the swelling on the apple cheeks of their little ones after insect bites. The swelling and itchiness can become very painful at times. Mama Earth after bite roll on works very effectively against mosquito and other insect bite. Its key ingredients are coconut oil, calendula oil, peppermint oil and Roman Chamomile Oil.

The anti- bacterial and anti- fungal properties of coconut oil are very helpful in soothing rashes, disinfecting cuts and promoting healing of wounds. Calendula oil helps soothe sore, inflamed and itchy skin. Peppermint oil gives a cooling sensation and has a calming effect on the skin. Roman Chamomile oil acts as a skin healer and relieves skin irritations.

With the goodness of all these natural oils and a perfectly easy to carry roll on bottle makes Mama Earth after Bite Roll on the perfect solution to insect bites for kids.

Where to Buy

Mama Earth products are available on all the leading online portals and also from their official site : https://mamaearth.in/

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The Inheritors: Stories of Entrepreneurship and Success by Sonu Bhasin – Book Review

Wondering how to grow your business and looking for some inspiration? Thinking as to how some businesses grow so big and while some are still struggling to make the ends meet?

The Inheritors by Sonu Bhasin is just what you are looking for.

About the Author

Sonu Bhasin is one of the early and senior women professionals in the industry and has led businesses in senior leadership positions during her role as director, ING Barings; president, Axis Bank; and group President, Yes Bank. Currently, Sonu is an independent director of boards of well-known companies.

She is the founder of Families and Business (FAB), a platform for family-owned businesses, and the editor of Families & Business magazine.

Blurb of the book

Why did Harsh Mariwala leave his family business? Why did the Burman family quit the day-to-day operations of Dabur? How did the Dhingras turn a collapsing business into India’s second largest paint company?

The Inheritors offers a fascinating behind- the- scenes look at what goes on in Marico, Dabur, Keventers, Berger Paints, Select Group, Motilal Oswal and many more. The book focuses on culture, family politics, ego battles, business rivalries and a lot more. And then, of course, there are the inheritors themselves- some take the businesses to greater heights while others lead them to doom.

Review

Sonu Bhasin has chosen storytelling method while writing about the inheritors of the so-called big business houses and brands as we know them today. The story telling method makes the book very interesting and highly relatable. It is very interesting to know that the inheritors, who are believed to be born with a silver spoon, also need to work hard and face a lot of challenges to reach where they are. Success doesn’t come easily to anyone. Even the big companies who have reached the skies of success today have to start from a scratch and had to go through several hardships from various fronts to be where they are today.

I found the book very inspiring and gripping from beginning to the end. Even while talking about the details of financial aspects of the family businesses, the book doesn’t lose the interest of the reader. Reading about the personal lives and interests of the inheritors of the family businesses, their ambitions, passions and dreams while dealing with the various obstacles that they had to confront, like Amit Burman’s dream of establishing food related business and how he had to work his way through in converting Real Fruit Juices and Lite Bite Foods into big profitable brands has highly inspiring and motivating.

The book also brings into light some aspects of feminism though in extremely subtle ways when the author talks about how the females of the families of the family businesses were not given any role in the council and even the profit sharing of some companies.

At the same time, there is the story of Pooja Jain from Luxor group, who questions the term “inheritors” itself and brings in to light how each day she has to work hard and has dedicated herself in the service of the company.

To conclude, the tight grip on the narrative and the story telling medium combined with some of the most fascinating stories of the people who took the reins of their family businesses in their hands and have not only been running it successfully but have also led them to greater heights, makes “The Inheritors” a worth read.

I was given a copy of the book by Writer’s Melon for an honest review.

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Here’s How I am Keeping The Promise Of Good Health For My Family

Milk has a very special place in our homes. Be it our morning tea, evening coffee or tall glasses for our kids. We cannot think of a day without milk. Milk is an essential part of our daily groceries.

This summer, I faced regular problems with the milk packs I had been buying regularly for years. The milk would turn sour as soon as I would heat it. The shop owners blamed it on power cuts and the lack of proper storage facility that they have. Due to power cuts, shop owners would keep lesser quantities of milk and as a result, the shop owners would run out of milk.

Then, I shifted to milk packaged in Tetra Pak cartons from the pouch variant of the same brand that I have now been using for ages. I must say, I ‘m much happier with this decision. Now, even if there are power cuts in summers with the shop owners providing the excuse of poor supply of milk, I am assured that I can keep and store milk which will stay fresh and safe, even for a long time.

Milk is packed in six layer protective Tetra Pak cartons. The milk is heated on very high temperature for a brief period which also ensures that the taste and the nutrients of the milk remain intact. The milk goes through a quick heating and cooling session, called the Ultra High Temperature process. The UHT process helps in keeping the milk safe for about six months without opening.

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There are several myths around milk in Tetra Pak cartons which prevail commonly. I read about them and found answers to all of them. Milk in Tetra Pak cartons is generally perceived to contain preservatives. The truth is that this milk is heated at high temperature which helps in removing all the harmful microorganisms from the milk. The packaging is done in highly sterile conditions. Therefore, there is no need to add preservatives in milk packaged by Tetra Pak.

The second, most common myth is that this milk is not nutritious. It is a regular practice in households to boil the milk. Despite the milk being pasteurized before packaging, boiling the milk for longer duration is a regular practice. This results in a loss of nutrients, especially proteins and vitamin B group. Tetra Pak packaging helps keep the milk safe and retain its nutrients.

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There are several other benefits of this food safety mark:
1.     Milk in Tetra Pak cartons has a longer shelf life. The unopened milk carton can be stored for as long as six months without refrigeration.
2.     The milk is well packed in six layers of packaging that is tamper-evident and hence eliminates chanced of adulteration.
3.     It keeps the milk safe and preserves its nutrients.
4.     There is no need to boil the milk as it has already gone through the UHT process.
5.     Tetra Pak cartons are made primarily of paperboard and can be recycled and turned into more useful products, making them environment-friendly.
6.     Milk in Tetra Pak cartons is safe to consume directly. This milk is creamier and thicker when compared to milk sourced in any other packaging.

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In today’s fast paced life, I find milk packaged in Tetra Pak cartons to be a healthier and safer choice. I can be sure of providing pure and unadulterated milk to my family every day, keeping the promise of good health for my family.

This article was first published on mycity4kids: https://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/my-kids-my-wings/article/heres-how-i-am-keeping-the-promise-of-good-health-for-my-family

 

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Ten Fun Games to Play with Kids while Travelling

Christmas holidays are around the corner and we have already made our travel plans for the New Year celebrations with our friends. With my 2 kids I generally start planning much ahead and start preparing my list of all the essentials. Apart from the other essentials, I prepare a separate handbag for kids in which I keep some things to keep the kids entertained throughout the journey. The bag usually kids little knick knacks to keep them busy.

During the journey, we often have to wait in long queues at the airport or at other places, even while travelling by car, kids become irritable and impatient by sitting at one place.To kill this boredom while waiting and keep our little ones engaged, we play some fun games which do not require any props and make their brain tickle too.

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Here’s a list of ten fun waiting games to challenge the brain of our little ones and let them have fun while travelling and waiting almost anywhere.

  1. What’s there in my purse?

After becoming a mother, my handbag has become like a smaller version of a cupboard which has a small size packing of almost everything, from small packet of wet wipes, sanitizer, small moisturiser, hand wash liquid, small toys, makeup essentials, little snack packets and what not. All these things make my bag a curious corner for the kids. I take advantage of it and play a game with them. I ask them to list or guess ten things that might be there in my purse. The one who comes closest to, wins the game.

  1. What’s missing?

I place ten things in front of them. Ask them to remember the things for about ten seconds. After that I tell them to close their eyes for a few seconds and while they are doing so, I hide 2-3 things. My children have to guess the things that are missing. It helps in making their memories strong and they have lots of fun too.

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  1. True or lie?

For this game, one member takes a turn and says three statements. Two statements out of them needs to be false and one statement should be true. The other members have to guess which statements are true and which ones are lies. This is a fun game in which other members can join in too.

  1. How many can you name?

Think of any general category, for example, birds. Ask the child to name as many words as he can think of in that category in ten seconds. May be the name of ten birds or parts of the body of birds. With older kids, you can be more specific like, flightless birds or birds of prey. Modify the game according to the age of the child and have fun.

  1. Drop a coin

This game is played with a coin. The challenge of this game is to drop it in such a way so that it lands on your shoe and not on the floor. It becomes fun when each participant takes turn to drop the coin.

  1. Word chain

This one is our favourite. The game begins by saying loud an alphabet. One person starts by saying a word with that alphabet, for example, garden. The next player has to add a word starting with the last letter of the previous word, for example, garden, necklace. The next one will continue the chain by saying all the previous words of the chain and adding one more word, for example, garden, necklace, escalator, so on.

  1. DMAS

We play this game every time we are travelling by road or car. This game is based on the concept of DMAS of Maths. So, it is for older kids who are familiar with division, multiplication, addition and subtraction. I must say, this is our saviour during all the traffic jams. For this, one person tells out the four digits from the number plate of any car which he spots on the road. The digit must be between 1- 9. The other members have to use the four operation of DMAS and make the equivalent zero. Sounds easy? Try it for some food for the brains.

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  1. Atlas

My kids love to play this game with their dad in the car. The game begins by saying an alphabet. The first player has to say the name of any city, country or continent with that letter, the next player will then say the name of another city, country or continent beginning with the last letter of the previously said place. For example, the first player says, India. The next player will say the name of any city, country or continent beginning with the letter ‘a’. For example, Asia. This game becomes super fun when all the members join in.

  1. In my purse is a story

Kids love to invent stories. They can create a story out of anything. Give them three things from your purse and challenge them to invent a story around those three things. I am sure you will have some of the craziest stories that will make you laugh during those boring long waits and long journey.

  1. Imaginary traveller

This one goes with the consecutive alphabets. Tell the children that they are travellers in a fantasy land. They have to build a sentence using the name of a place, person and object that they are going to visit and taking along. For example, I am going to Aunt Anita’s house in Alaska and taking my Armchair along. The next player starts with the next alphabet. Tell them to be as silly as they can be.

Try these ideas and make your next journey as fun as it can be. Do share with me your ideas too in the comment box and let our kids have fun while travelling.

This post is in link up with Deepa Gandhi and Dr Amrita Basu. Do read their ideas travelling with kids.

I have written this post for #MMM #MondayMommyMoments.

 

 

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DIY Handmade Toys Ideas For Kids

Kids love toys and it doesn’t matter how many of them they have, they still keep asking for more. Toys have a big role in their development. Each and every toy has a very special place in our children’s heart.

I remember how in school we were taught to make handmade toys, toys made out of rags, old socks, and old material lying around the house and knitted toys. I thought of making the same with my kids. The project would be interesting for sure, it will bring out their imagination and creativity plus we can have a good craft to do over the weekend.

When I suggested my kids that we can make our toys at home, they could not believe at first. For them toys can only bought from the market. So, we decided that we will make our own toys at home and have lots and lots of fun while making them and playing with them.

Old Socks Toys

Toys made out of old socks are very simple and easy to make. For this we used old socks, markers, rags, material to stuff inside like old foam, sponge pieces, cotton, rags etc.

 

For this doll, we took two pair of socks. One sock to make the body and one for the dress. Here is how we made it:

We took an old piece of cloth of skin colour, kept some foam in it and gave it the shape of a ball. I stitched it to make the face. My daughter made the features with a marker.

For the body, we took a sock, cut the part which covers the leg. I stitched it from below and let the kids fill it with foam pieces. After filling the sock piece, I stitched the head and body together. I cut the remaining piece of sock into half, filled it with foam and stitched it to form the arms. I joined the arms with the body. My daughters had a great time in dressing the doll with rags.

 

My daughters are crazy about Peppa Pig and George Pig. They asked me whether we can make them too.

We tried to make Mr Dinosaur with an old sock.

For this, we traced the drawing of Mr Dinosaur on a sheet of paper. I cut the socks in the shape of Mr Dinosaur and stitched it. We filled it up with cotton wool. We used old black cloth pieces to give the shape of arms and legs, filled it up with cotton and joined it. The teeth were made by using laces and eyes with a black button.

How about a mom and a baby doll? We used an old cardboard box and covered it with cloth to make our own doll house.

Hand knitted Toys and Finger Puppets

When my daughters showed their toys to their grandmother, she joined the fun too and made hand knitted finger puppets and toys for them.

These are the various knitted finger puppets for our finger family song. Can you see that there is George Pig too and Nariyal Anna from Art Attack? Not to forget Kung Foo Panda.

 

These hand knitted dolls can be used as finger puppets as well as any other dolls to play with.

 

We made Peppa Pig too. The knitting part can be done by an adult and stuffing part can be done by the kids.

Rag Toys

What to do when you have pieces of old cloth lying around? We made rag toys. Just cut the cloth piece in the shape of the toy you want and fill it up with cloth pieces. With a few stitches, it’s done.

 

 

Benefits of Home Made Toys

I must say we had hours of fun and learning too while making these toys. There are several benefits of this activity:

  1. Children can use them as puppets or like toys for make belief playing. We can also make our own toys for storytelling.
  2. These toys are very safe to use. There is no hazardous material used in it. These are not plastic. Even if the child puts it in his mouth, there is no harm.
  3. These are very cost friendly. Toys these days are very expensive and make a hole in our pockets. Home-made toys save money.
  4. These are also a good craft activity for kids. Kids not only enjoy making them but also learn a lot.
  5. Toy making saves plenty of screen time. Kids get involved in a constructive activity and get some time off from the screens.
  6. Kids lean to value and save money. They get to learn that they can save money and buying innumerable toys leads to a waste of money.
  7. These toys are very environment friendly. Plastic toys are extremely hazardous. We are extremely worried while using plastic toys as kids might put them in their mouth and also they are unsafe for the environment. These toys are biodegradable also based on the principles of the 4 R’s- Refuse, Reduce, Reuse and Recycle.

 

So, go ahead and enjoy this fun activity with your kid during the Christmas holidays. No more getting bored or being glued to the TV. This activity is sure to give you endless fun and learning too.

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वर वधु की तलाश – विज्ञापनों के साथ बदलता समाज(एक हास्य लेख)

पहले ज़माने मे जब भी किसी मां बाप को अपनी लड़की के लिए वर की तलाश होती थी तो वे रिश्तेदारों को बोलते थे या अखबार में मैट्रीमोनीयल पर विज्ञापन देते थे। हर सप्ताह अखबार के मैट्रीमोनीयल कालम मे खोज कर चार पाँच विज्ञापनों पर गोला लगाते थे और फिर उनके बारे मे जाँच पड़ताल करते थे।

तब वर के लिए नियम बहुत कम होते थे। 23 साल की कन्या के लिए वर ढूंढना हो तो 27-28 साल , सम्भ्रांत परिवार का डाक्टर या इंजीनियर ।

एक कालम होता था मांगलिक या नान मांगलिक जन्म कुंडली के अनुसार। पंजाबी के लिए पंजाबी, अग्रवाल के लिए अग्रवाल। धीरे धीरे समय बदलता गया और वर के लिए योग्यताओं मे एक और नियम जुड़ गया – caste no bar यानि कि इंटर कास्ट विवाह। और इस तरह इंटर कास्ट विवाह को समाज द्वारा मान्यता मिली। 

कई विज्ञापनों मे tee-totaller की योग्यता भी मांगी गई। अजी Tee-totaller लड़के क्या, आजकल तो tee-totaller लड़कियां भी नहीं मिलती। 

समय बदला और समाज ने थोड़ी और उन्नति की। पहले लव मैरिज को उचित नहीं समझते थे यह सोच कर कि लोग क्या कहेंगे किन्तु अब माता पिता के लिए आसान हो गया। लड़की को उच्च शिक्षा दी , अच्छे पद पर नौकरी के काबिल बनाया और निश्चिंत हो गए कि अब लड़की अपने लिए पसंद का वर ढूंढ ही लेगी। 

पर यह क्या , एक और नई समस्या आने लगी कि जी लड़की की आय लड़के से ज़्यादा नहीं होनी चाहिए नहीं तो स्वाभिमान की लड़ाई शुरू हो जाएगी। लो कर लो बात अब वर वधु के बीच आई लड़की की आय व स्वाभिमान की दीवार। 


कई बार पढाई के दौरान आपसी मित्रता विवाह के बंधन तक पहुंच गई। लड़की के ब्याह की चिंता जो उसके पैदा होने पर ही सताने लगती थी, “पराया धन” समझ कर , वह चिन्ता अब समाप्त हुई। 

इस तरह कुछ चिन्ताओ से मुक्ति मिली- 

दहेज की चिन्ता नहीं , 

वर या वधु ढूंढने की चिन्ता नहीं,

लड़की को ससुराल मे आने वाली समस्या की भी चिन्ता नहीं।

समाज कितना बदल गया है। अब लड़की या लड़के के लिए जीवन साथी ढूंढना हुआ और आसान। जो पहले अखबारों तक या marriage bureau तक व मन्दिरों के पंडितों तक सीमित था अब वो social media पर छा गया।

पहले के इश्तहार आज भी याद आते हैं- 

“वर ही वर – संपर्क करें शर्मा जी से”

“रिश्ते ही रिश्ते – 28 रैगड़ पुरा” 

और अब देखिए – 

कृपया log in करें – ‘www….com’ पर।

चलिए अब कम से कम ‘रिश्ते’ ढूंढने के लिए कहीं जाने या किसी से मिलने की ज़रूरत नहीं।

मुझे याद है कुछ साल पहले पड़ोसिन ने अपनी लड़की के लिए तलाक शुदा वर ढूंढा तो सबने उसे फटकार लगाई कि तुम्हें अपनी बेटी के लिए और कोई वर नहीं मिला जो एक तलाक शुदा से अपनी बेटी की शादी करना चाहते हो? मगर आज की मैट्रीमोनियल विज्ञापन तो देखिए – 

Caste no bar

Age no bar
Marital status no bar

Kids no bar !!!

भई वाह! अब तो सबके सब ‘bar’ ही हटा दिए। मेरी सहेली ने आकर बताया कि उसकी मित्र का पति उससे दो साल छोटा है तो सब आपस मे फुसफुसाने लगे , “देखो, क्या ज़माना आ गया है। हमारे ज़माने मे तो वर की उम्र वधु से कम से कम दस साल ज्यादा होती थी वहीं अब वधू की उम्र वर से ज्यादा होने लगी। सही कहा – “age no bar” ।

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अजी ज़माना तो आपके भले के लिए ही बदला है। न दहेज की चिन्ता, न रिश्तेदारों का डर । लड़की हुई तो उसके ब्याह की भी चिन्ता नहीं, लड़की शादी करे या न करें यह भी चिन्ता नहीं, अगर ज़रूरी है तो उसकी शिक्षा , उसका स्वावलंबी होना, उसका आत्मविश्वास, शादी किसी से हो या न हो कोई फर्क नहीं पड़ता।

हाँ बस अब एक ही प्रश्नचिन्ह रह गया है। पुरुष दो बच्चों के बाद भी विधुर  हो तो चाहता है कि उसे लड़की मिले जिसके बच्चे नहीं हो और वह उसके बच्चों को अपने बच्चों की तरह पाले परन्तु स्त्री के साथ ऐसा नहीं है। 

किन्तु यह अभी दूर की सोच है। फिर सोचती हूँ कि बाकी सब bar की तरह शायद यह bar भी जल्दी हट जाए और कहा जाए ‘शादी बार बार’।